Family

Don’t Push Your Health Needs To The Back Just Because You’re A Mum

Don't Push Your Health Needs To The Back Just Because You're A Mum

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Everyone has health needs, and just because you are a mum, this does not mean that yours are not important. They are just as important as the other members of your family, and need to be taken seriously as such. Often mums put their needs at the back of the queue, but this has got to stop, or else you never know how far you are going to let your health fall. Keep reading down below if you would like to find out more about how you can keep your health needs at the front of the queue with everyone else.

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#LoveYourself · Adulting

Making Sure You Relax As A Parent

Parenting is hard, and that’s something that nobody is willing to deny. Looking after your children every day can feel like a huge task, even though you love them more than anything in the world. You might think that stress is just part of the job description that comes with being a parent, and to an extent, you’re right, but that doesn’t mean that it’s good for you. In this article, we’re going to be looking at some of the ways that you can relax to benefit your health when you have kids. Keep reading down below if you want to find out more.

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Ask Someone To Look After The Kids 

The first thing that we are going to suggest to give yourself some time to relax is to ask someone to look after the kids. Not everyone likes leaving their kids, but whether this is for a couple of hours or a day or two, you need to be able to trust the person you’re asking. Whether you choose a friend or family member, make sure that they can have them for at least a few hours to give yourself time to unwind. It’s a difficult job, and you need time to yourself, which you likely aren’t going to get if you’ve got your kids running around all day. 

You can use this time to do some of the things that you like but can’t do because the kids are around, or you can simply use it to sleep. It’s up to you, whatever you think is going to be most helpful when it comes to your stress levels. A lot of elevated stress comes from lack of sleep, so if you aren’t getting enough rest, you need to take advantage of the situation.

Get Some Help..

The next thing that we are going to suggest is that you get some help. It’s not always easy to relax and let go of the stress, especially as there is always going to be something new to stress about. One of the things that you can do is try cbg oil as it has been known to have calming effects on people. If you’re coming to a point where you think you’re going to break soon if something doesn’t give, then there is no harm in trying this out and seeing if it can help you. Of course, this isn’t for everyone, and if you are having major problems, then you can go and see your doctor as they might have something that you can try as well.

Do An Activity You Love

Finally, one of the best ways to relax is to do something you love. How long has it been since you have been able to sit through an entire movie that wasn’t chosen by your child? Or, how long has it been since you’ve been able to sit down and read a book? These simple activities might not seem like much to everyone else, but when you’re a parent having the time to do this is a dream come true. 

It can be simple like this, or if someone else has the kids, you can do something else that you enjoy. Go out for a run, or go out and meet your friends for a night out. There are so many options, and it doesn’t matter what you choose as long as you relax.

We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see how you can relax as a parent.

Adulting · Parenting

Are Single Parents Being Penalised? #CostOfSingleParenting

Single Parents
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One thing you may or may not know about me is that I am basically a professonal bargain hunter. I never pay full price for anything, unless I’ve fully satisfied myself that there’s not a discount code or voucher that I can use, or some way to bring a price down before buying. I collect points for everywhere I shop, never EVER pay full price for a pizza without searching for a voucher code and I even shop around every three months to get my contact leanses at the cheapest price.

This summer, we’ve been trying to do things as a family and we’ve been fortunate to get ‘family’ tickets for a lot of places, thanks to the fact that we’re a “two adults and two kids” family, which is where most discounts are firmly aimed. However, it got me thinking about the fact that single parents are being penalised and missed out of discount opportunities, despite the fact that with just one adult, they’re probably in greaterneed of offers and discounts than anyone.

PayPlan has put together an infographic showing the true cost of the summer holidays to a single-parent family and some of the figures are truly eye-opening:

Do Single Parents Feel Penalised?

As well as missing out on the discounts, being the sole breadwinner must be daunting for many. I thought I’d ask some of my single parent friends if they felt that they were penalised for being a non-conventional family and about the difficulties they’ve faced. Here are some of their comments:

Zoe (Insta: runningonempty_mummy) said “I’m new to the single mum world and notice it all the time – family tickets [aimed at 2 adults and 2 kids], holidays abroad – I got charged a supplement, kids eat free with two adult meals bought etc”

Sarah said “I’m not a single parent but I travel and go out a lot on my own with my 5 year old. I find I can’t use child free places on holidays, I have to sometimes pay single Supplement in rooms as he’s only 5, I can’t take advantage of family deals at the cinema (even with the husband we don’t have enough kids to make the min number) I also effectively pay more per head on the train as well as with groupsave other adults can travel free bringing cost per person.”

Mandy said ” I had an argument in [a cinema] once; they had this promotion on for families for tickets and like a snack combo thing, which worked out cheaper than me and sienna and a snack combo, but they wouldn’t let me have it”

Sian said “Not [a single parent] anymore, but continue to be sick of having to be quizzed as to who I am to my daughter when bringing her home from abroad get no one ever cares what kids I’m taking out the country!! Just because we made the mistake of putting a fathers name on birth cert doesn’t mean we should be interrogated and humiliated at every UK airport!”

Toni said “Private renting is my biggest problem. I work but obviously don’t earn enough to be able to private rent a house without claiming top up and no one accepts it. So i am left renting a damp house with a leaky ceiling because I am worried if i complain i will be evicted and homeless.”

Are you a single parent? Do you feel like you’re overlooked when it comes to money saving opportunities? Do you experience other difficulties? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, please do leave me a comment below.

Maternity

8 Tips for a Smooth Departure on Maternity Leave

Author: Ines Marinho

Everything related to pregnancy can be a challenge to woman, especially if it is the first born. All is new and a bit of a scary world. The woman’s life changes completely, and every detail must be thought and planed.

As human beings, we all have flaws and no one is made of iron, so for that reason, here is a guide to help all the future mommies to prepare for the maternity leave.

From six to three months before the due date, there are a few steps that should be considered in your work.

  1. Telling your boss or work responsible

It is not new that pregnant women like to keep it a secret before the first trimester. After this period of time, it is good to start to tell people at your work, mainly your boss, that you are expecting a baby. This leaves you more time to prepare an effective plan for your leave and doesn’t leave your boss in panic to find alternatives for your absence.

Showing in your working place that you care about how the responsibilities will be spread and how much you want all to go smooth and handled professional will be a plus to your career attitude. Asking your supervisor what the main concerns about your time are, since you will be away from the working place, is also a good suggestion to make clear you are involved in finding solutions.

  1. Finding a day care

It is not soon to start finding a kindergarten or day care to your kid. Usually, some living areas have the day care centers full and guaranteeing your baby’s place is a must!

By taking the time to find the best day care during this trimester, you can spend the whole maternity leave focused only on your newborn.

Two months before the due date

  1. Creating a timeline for departure

Reunite with your boss and create a plan of how and when things need to be accomplished. Check together if an action plan can be created so things go smoothly during your leave. It is certain to have a more positive outcome when you have a plan for what will happen before, during and later upon your return.

  1. Relying on documents

Create notes and guideline documents to outline the systems you use and all of your daily tasks. This will be a major help for whoever will come to replace you within the next months. Guidance is always a plus and keeping track of how things are done during your leave.

One month before the due date

  1. Meeting the people who are taking your place

Meeting the people who are taking your responsibilities it is important in a way that they will take care of your job. Guide them, train them and advise them so the best results are achieved. Supervise them while they take tasks on their own, so they feel confident in the future to take all the work.

  1. Open the possibility of your replacement contacting you while you are home

Take the time to plan how can your replacement people contact you during your leave. Also, discuss what kind of issue would be important enough for someone to contact you while you are out.

If there are still meetings or events you would still like to be involved in while you are on the maternity leave, you should previously discuss the matter. Maybe there is the chance you can participate by phone, video conference or some other ways.

You can also ask your boss or work responsible if taking your child to work is an option. Some workplaces are adapting to having mother’s and even father’s bringing their babies to work. Do you know that even baseball teams high ranked in the odds to win the World Series, like the Red Sox and the White Sox, allow athletes to bring their children to work? Of course, you should see if your child is cooperative and if he or she doesn’t get startled by your workplace – it also depends what is your occupation. Anyway, give it a thought if you think it is a possibility.

Right before the maternity leave

  1. Take action towards your absence

Set up a clear stated ‘out of the office’ answer for your emails and business voicemail. On these, clarify who they can contact instead of you and when is expected for you to be back. In case of you needing to access your work while you are away, create and learn about the company’s remote login process.

  1. Thank people

While you are away, your boss and co-workers will take an important part related to your absence. It is important to acknowledge their flexibility and show them some appreciation. For everyone involved, showing gratitude is something that has no price, so just do it.

After, you can take all of your time without worries and focusing 100 percent on your baby and yourself.

Education · Parenting

College Homework: 8 Essential Study Habits for Parents

If you are a parent and attending college, you are likely to have problems organizing your time. It becomes even more difficult when you are working at the same time. The thought of juggling between work, studies, and parenting is overwhelming in itself. Therefore, you have to find the right tricks that will help to survive under such conditions. Here are some tips for you to get your college homework done.

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  1. Create time for everything

Although it may seem like there is not enough time to perform all your duties, you will be surprised to find out that you can create it. Proper planning ensures that everything is done at the right time. When you do this, you will even have time to spend with your children and family.

  1. Invest in the right study apps

The use of applications in education is one of the best things that ever happened to students. As a parent who still has to work and study, you need applications that will help you to organize your functions. They should also make it easy for you to access your notes and communicate with your tutors.

  1. Look for online courses

Since you will be spending most of your time at home taking care of the children, an online course could come in handy. You will notice that it allows you more flexibility compared to traditional classrooms. You can feed the kids, put them to bed, and proceed to take a few lessons.

  1. Technology will be your savior

In this age, you cannot overlook the importance of technology when it comes to education, especially when you are a parent and a student at the same time. Find the latest trends in technology and see how they can help to ease the pressure on your shoulders.

  1. Invest in high-quality educational gadgets

What are some of the gadgets that you use for your college education? If you want to enjoy the best experiences, you have to invest in high quality calculators, laptops, document readers, printers, and all the tools that you may need,

  1. Find online forums for parents in similar situations

There are many parents who are juggling between many tasks the same way you do. Find them through online forums and find out how they cope with it.

  1. Rest is important too

It is good to focus on your studies and give them your all so that you may succeed. However, do not deprive yourself of rest because a lack of it will only lead to unfortunate situations.

  1. Find someone to help with your homework and essays

Since you have too many other things to do besides education, you may want to find experts to help you with your assignments and essays. You can find such experts online, and they will save you a lot of time and energy.

In a nutshell, the fact that you are a parent should not make you abandon your dream of getting a college education. By suing some of these tips and getting help , there is no doubt that you will complete the course.