Adulting · Relationships

6 Things You Need To Consider When Booking Your Wedding

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Although planning your wedding is an incredibly exciting thing to do, there are lots of little details you need to think of to ensure everything goes without a hitch. Whether you’re planning a small get-together for just your closest friends and family, or you’re planning a massive celebration bringing together everyone you know – ensuring you’ve prepared everything well in advance is vital to having the perfect day.

With that in mind, here are 6 things you need to think of when booking your wedding:

  • What Is Your Budget?

Before you start planning any aspect of your wedding you need to ensure you’ve set yourself a budget. This doesn’t mean setting one budget for the whole wedding but instead looking at things in more detail.

This will ensure that you’re not going to go over your budget before you’ve managed to book everything and put the final details into place. For advice on setting yourself a wedding budget, you can view this handy guide here.

  • Where Do You Want To Get Married?

Although most people choose to get married close to home, other’s prefer to book themselves a destination wedding. Whilst most choose to book their destination wedding on a glorious island, you can pick absolutely anywhere you like. Whether you want to get married in the Scottish Highlands, in a gorgeous American National Park or on a beach in Jamaica, you can make your wedding whatever you want it to be.

  • What Kind Of Venue Would You Like?

Once you’ve decided where you want to get married, you can start to think about your venue. Of course, you’ll need to think about your budget and how many people you want to attend, but the best way to decide which venue you want to book is to visit the venues firsthand. Once you’ve visited a couple you’ll be able to get a good idea of what it is you want, giving you more of a chance of making an informed decision.

  • What Time Of Year Do You Want To Get Married?

Depending on your budget you’ll have to choose whether you want to get married during peak wedding season or not. Whilst the latter is definitely cheaper, often it’s harder to get a hold of services like photography, catering or even a venue that offers a wedding package. Taking the time to work out which option is best for you will help you avoid any surprises during planning.

  • Will You Be Hiring A Band?

Once you’ve started to get the framework in place, you can start planning the details of your wedding, including whether or not you’re going to have a band. Whilst a lot of people opt for having a DJ at their wedding reception, hiring a band could be a great touch. For more information on hiring a wedding band, you can visit this site here.

  • What Kind Of Food Will You Have?

Another important decision to make when planning a wedding is deciding what kind of food you’re going to have. Whilst you can opt to have catering provided for your venue, some couples prefer to have something a little bit more personal. Whether that’s hiring food trucks or creating your own personal menu, you can tailor your food to you.

Are you getting married soon? What did you have to consider before booking your wedding? Let me know in the comments section below.

Happiness · Health

The Effects of Domestic Abuse and Why You’re Not Alone

The effects of domestic abuse vary from person to person depending on their circumstances. Abuse can come in many forms. Physical attributes, such as bruising, broken bones, scars and burns, can be very hard to deal with, and are the most obvious signs of abuse from a partner, friend, family member or anyone you have a relationship with. But what about the mental effects of domestic abuse? These are harder to spot, and worryingly, only around 40% of abuse survivors have the courage to speak to friends or family about their ordeal. If you know someone who has survived an abusive relationship, it’s important to understand that, although they can claim compensation for abuse, they will still need help moving on emotionally. Below are some common effects of domestic violence to look out for. You can learn how to spot them, offer help and be there for survivors.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

PTSD is an anxiety disorder which occurs after a stressful or traumatic event. When you have PSTD, you tend to relive your experiences in the form of flashbacks and nightmares. If you suspect a loved one is suffering from PTSD, then speak to them. Some symptoms include avoidance, alcohol misuse and more. PTSD can be treated thanks to therapy. The earlier someone sees a therapist, the earlier their PSTD can be treated.

Suicidal Tendencies

People with suicidal tendencies will usually not openly show any signs of their turmoil. However, if you suspect someone is depressed or suicidal, ensure that they cannot harm themselves with household objects, such as knives. Another way to keep them safe is by hiding any pills that can cause harm in large amounts.

Emotionally Numb

If you have noticed that your loved one has become socially detached, excusing themselves from social events, acting strange or not emotionally responding to certain events, then they may be showing signs of emotional numbing. This is a typical symptom of PTSD, depression and anxiety. They may not even know they’re excluding themselves emotionally. In order to open up a dialogue, mention that you’re concerned for their mental health, and that you will be there for them if they need to speak to a professional.

Anger

Not everyone is the same, and many people may lash out as a response to their emotional trauma. If you’re experiencing this, it may be a good idea to sit your loved one and down, and explain that although you are here for them as a friend or partner, you will not tolerate anger in your direction. Usually, anger is used a reaction by someone who cannot emotionally understand their trauma. Many therapists can address this.

Guest post by Gina Kay Daniel

Relationships

The 8 Secrets To A Happy Marriage

What is it that makes a successful marriage? Every marriage is different and has different successes and challenges. For some marriages the challenge might balancing raising children with respective careers. For others it might be their husband’s insomnia or for some it might be that the wife seems permanently attached to her mobile phone – especially true of mummy bloggers.  However, before we all  get on the phone to Austin Kemp Divorce Solicitors we need to take the time to ask ourselves what is it that makes some people have a successful marriage? Are they simply lucky or is there more to it than that? Does the success of a marriage depend on how we respond to these challenges?  We all know some “smug marrieds”. The couple who seemingly have the perfect marriage. But can any marriage really be that perfect? Do any of us really know what goes on behind that closed front door? For all we know that perfect married couple could be having weekly therapy sessions and that is why their marriage really works.

Is marriage therapy the secret to a successful marriage? Not according to this article which claims to know the secrets for a happy marriage.

What Are The Secrets To A Happy Marriage?

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1) Never change each other. Yes, in theory but then sometimes we all need to encourage change. If a woman was married to a man who dropped his socks on the floor and left the toilet seat up, then she would definitely be trying to change him!  Being a wife does not make a woman a maid. The husband might also find that they are bought the classic book  ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’

2) Compliment them. We all love to receive a compliment and we should be giving them too. Compliments are even more important when it comes to parenting little ones. Parenting is a tough gig and one where we all need plenty of compliments and reassurance.

3) Revisit the past. Sometimes a trip down memory lane can be good. It can also be a good laugh to go through some of your old photos from the past. Even the ones where you are both sporting rather dubious haircuts!

4) Always listen to each other. YES! Although, we can all be guilty of switching off. Sometimes we have a million things going on in our brain and we are trying to get lots of jobs done. We then realise that we haven’t listened to anything that has been said to us. Whoops. On the other-hand it drives us all insane if we think that our husbands aren’t listening to us. There are only so many times we are prepared to ask the same question, again and again….!  We are all guilty of not always listening.

5) Don’t get comfortable. It seems that suggestion being made here is that we shouldn’t be happy to laze around together watching Netflix. Do they not realise that the saying “Netflix and chill” (as in relax, not the other meaning) is popular amongst sleep-deprived parents for a reason. The article implies that women should probably be heading down to Ann Summers for some sexy lingerie. It’s autumn and the weather is getting a bit chilly and most of the female population would prefer getting comfy in their Marks & Spencer pjs, Netflix, a cup of tea and some chocolates. That is the secret to a happy marriage.

6) Do chores together. Yes, we aren’t in the 1950s anymore. Marriage should always be about equality. The serial housework-avoiders amongst us would  prefer it even more if they won the lottery and then they could pay for a cleaner to do the chores for them. That would make for a very happy marriage!

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7) Workout together. Does any married couple want to see their wife or husband grunting and sweating all over the gym floor? Workout time is far better when done alone!

8) Take a weekly walk. It doesn’t make it clear if this involves walking to your local pub, that is a weekly walk most parents would be very happy to take. A weekly walk is probably a good idea but for parents it is less romantic walk for two, and more like an endurance test because you have the whole family in tow.

What do you think? Do you agree that these really are the 8 secrets to a happy marriage? Perhaps you know the real secret to a happy marriage…

Relationships

Forget Your Wedding Day Jitters: 10 Signs That He Really Is The Man For You

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Most people get nervous before the wedding, and it’s a perfectly normal reaction. Nagging doubts creep in. Is he the man for me? Does he love me? Am I doing the right thing? Should you be about to get married, you have probably experienced some of those pre-wedding jitters yourself. Considering the wedding day is one of the biggest days of your life, you don’t want to waste your time walking down the aisle with the wrong guy.

We can’t tell you if you’re making the right decision or not. However, it’s still good to remind yourself why you’re marrying the guy you have chosen. Here are ten signs leading up to the wedding that should indicate he really is the guy for you.

1. Your engagement ring is closer to something from 77 Diamonds than anything resembling a novelty gift from a Christmas cracker. When he is willing to spend his hard earned money on you, it’s a good sign that he’s probably a keeper!

2. He can’t stop talking about the wedding and is as excited as you are about the big day. From looking at wedding catalogues to watching wedding programmes on tv, he literally can’t contain himself when it comes to thinking about your forthcoming nuptials.

3. Despite being allergic to horses, he is still going along with your plans for a horse-drawn carriage on the big day. He is sacrificing his own needs for your idea of a dream wedding.

4. Nobody else is convinced about your paper bouquet idea, but he is behind your creativity 100%. Respecting your ideas even when other people don’t is a sure fire way of knowing he cares about your feelings.

5. He surprises you every day with a romantic gesture. A bunch of flowers one day, a box of chocolates the next. The next day…well, you will just have to wait and see.

6. He knows how you’re feeling, despite your emotional mood swings. Feeling stressed? He’s there to calm your worries. Feeling down? He’s there with a comforting word and a cuddle. Need to be left alone for awhile? He respects your space. He knows you!

7. Despite having a bad day himself, he will still listen to your woes before telling you about his own. Not only does he listen, but he asks questions, pays attention, and genuinely seems to care.

8. He still wants to marry you, despite knowing all of your deepest, darkest secrets. What’s more, he wouldn’t tell another living soul, not even his mother!

9. Despite not liking some of your friends, he is willing to put up with them just to be in your company and has even let you reserve seats for them at the wedding.

10. He tells you he loves you on a daily basis. Sentimental? Maybe. Reassuring? Definitely!

If your guy lives up to each of those signs, then he is bordering on perfect, so don’t worry if you can’t relate to all of them. Provided your husband-to-be shows you love and care on a daily basis, then you should have no reason to worry about the big day. We wish you every happiness!

 


Relationships

Creative Date Ideas You’re Underestimating

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Any sort of date should be a fun date, but why not consider something a bit unconventional? Here’s a quick list of creative date ideas that you and your partner shouldn’t underestimate. The less well-worn the path of your date is, the more memorable it will be!

Try a new recipe

Find a recipe that you’ve never tried before and cook it together. The results may not be perfect, but working together on something like this will definitely create interesting memories! Besides, it could be argued that a recipe that doesn’t come out perfectly can actually make the whole thing a bit more fun. Try looking for recipes in diets that you don’t follow – for example, if you eat meat, then be adventurous and try a vegan dish.

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Watch a strange film

A lot of couples go out and watch the latest blockbusters or romantic comedies. But why not find an independent cinema in a less obvious location and watching some arthouse flick or documentary film? You may discover new areas of cinematic interest for the both of you. These sorts of films are also more likely to produce engaging conversation afterwards. As fun as I’m sure Thor 3 will be, how likely is it that you’ll both have anything much to say afterwards other than “that was awesome!”?

Go to a jazz bar

Most cities these days have a jazz bar hidden away somewhere, even though many people think that jazz bars are long-forgotten relics that are nowhere to be found these days. A jazz night is a classic date night idea, but it’s in no way antiquated. Some bars will play old-time stuff, but many will feature musicians playing new and original material – and modern jazz still continues to be as fun and adventurous as it always was. Get some formal wear ready – find a nice suit or a long evening dress online – and search for a nearby jazz bar for a truly different evening.

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Have a games night

People are always underestimating the power of board games. Of course, it could be argued that board games are best played in a group. But there are actually a bunch of board games out there that are perfectly fun with two people. Try out the best board games for couples – or, if you’re really not into the board game scene, consider taking turns with a video game.

Have a picnic

Sure, you could have a nice lunch indoors. Or you could go to a restaurant, which is where most couples will go if they want to have a date that features food. But why not save a bunch of money (those restaurants are not kind to your wallet, after all) and have a picnic? The season is right for it, after all. (Or, at least, it’s getting there.) Be careful about your wine selection, though – you don’t want to end up drinking too much in a public field! If you really feel like having a wine-heavy picnic, then even a back garden picnic can be amazing.

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Walk the dog

A lot of dog owners tend to see walking the dog as a pretty banal daily duty. Sure, when you first get the dog it can be pretty exciting, but over time it tends to be something just one person in the household does, with people often taking it in turns just like any other chore. But consider actually going on a long walk together with your dog. And if you don’t have a dog, offer to walk your friend’s dog, or consider searching for people online who need the occasional dog walker.

Go for a hot air balloon ride

Not for those afraid of heights! This is another ‘classic’ date idea that seems to be grossly underused these days. As long as there’s a big enough field nearby, you can probably find a business nearby that offers hot air balloon rides for couples. Remember that there will probably be someone else in the basket with you, though, unless one of you happens to be a licensed air balloon pilot!

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Recreate your first date

Assuming that you’ve been with your partner for some time, it may be a good idea to try recreating your first date. Go to the same restaurant or watch the film you first saw together. You can recreate this at home, too – cook the same meals you ate that night and rent the same film you saw, or see if you can find it on Netflix. A trip down memory lane can really bring back some sparks.