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No Time to Make Meals

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One of my biggest struggles as a mum is trying to find time to cook decent meals for my kids that they will eat and that I feel good about them eating. I know they will always eat all the mac and cheese and chicken nuggets I make for them, but what about their broccoli, fruits and other foods that their little bodies need?

There will be many times where I will work extra hard to make something for my kids that I think they will like and that I feel good about, but then they refuse to eat it. We can sit together at the table and have a battle of wills over who will hold out the longest, but nobody wins there. Honestly, I don’t have time for that kind of struggle. I need to find foods that they will eat without a problem and that I don’t have to feel guilty about.

The Extra Effort

I found that if I make the food fun, then that can help my kids to eat it. I cut the fruits into shapes like stars and dinosaurs, and the kids love them. Some of my kids are so picky about the kids of foods that most kids will eat without a problem. Bananas, strawberries and apples are all tough foods to get my kids to eat, but once I make it fun for them, then they will tend to eat it without an issue. Making the extra time to make food interesting and exciting to them is tough to do sometimes, but it is worth it. I find that if I prepare things the night before, then I have the extra time I need throughout the day to get other stuff done. If we spend an hour and half on lunch, then I feel like my entire afternoon is shot, so I try not to put elaborate meals on my schedule for noontime.

The Sneaky Meal

Another way I manage to get my kids to eat food without spending a lot of time making something is to take foods that they like and add a bit of nutrition to it. So, I make the aforementioned mac and cheese and add just a hint of broccoli to it. Other veggies can go in there as well. I have added cooked carrots to great effect as well, and I know there are some kids that will pick through their food and pick out the pieces they don’t like. If you make the pieces of veggies or whatever else small enough, though, then your kids might be less inclined to take them out. It’s hard for them to complain about something so small, especially if you cover everything in cheese so that they can’t tell what is good for them from what is creamy pasta. This works pretty well, and it doesn’t take a lot of extra time.

I am constantly trying to find ways to give my kids the food they need to have without spending a long time in the kitchen, and this is a doable solution. I do the same thing with pizza, adding some pineapple or whole tomato pieces onto it, but I run into the pickiness problem there sometimes. Kids are likely to pick things off their pizza that they don’t like, so I have to encourage them to eat all their food if they want dessert or something like that to get them to overlook the healthy stuff on their pizza. There are ways to deal with even picky kids when you want to incorporate some healthy food into their regular diet, and every kid is different. There are a few tricks that work for me, but I can’t promise they will work for you.

Make Lots of Food

Probably the biggest time saver I ever use in the kitchen is just mass producing whatever I am cooking. If I am making a casserole, I make two dishes of it. If I’m making a soup, I use my largest pot. That way, there are plenty of leftovers, and I can just heat them up later in the week to feed myself and the kids. If I did a good job on the food and the kids like it the first time, then they have no problem eating it again. They despise eating leftovers that they were not too crazy about in the first place, though.  

I try to only make large portions of those foods that I know my kids will love. Otherwise, I can be stuck eating it all by myself over the next week. Sometimes, when I mass produce the food, I end up neglecting my chores around the house, so I like to hire a cleaning company, for example Diamond Clean Calgary to take care of things for me for that day or just ask my husband to pick up some of the slack. One way or the other, I make some concessions and do things a bit differently so that I have time to make the food I need to make.

There is a chance that when you make foods in large quantities like this that something will go wrong. The more you make at once, the more likely it is to all just burn or fall flat or something. So, I take my time and try not to multitask too much. And when I do that, it usually turns out okay.

I know some kids are really difficult when it comes to finding foods for them to eat. It can also be time consuming to try to cook different things throughout the week to see what your kids will eat. I say just stick to the things they like and spice them up in some different ways or give them something tangentially related to what they like. Hopefully, my methods will work for you, but you may have to come up with some of your own for dealing with your kids.

Play More and Win a Sudocrem My Little Adventure Pack!

One of the reasons that we moved to our little house in the countryside, back in 2015, was so that we could spend more time outdoors as a family. Living in a very suburban area meant that we were constantly surrounded by noise and pollution, our garden was overlooked by about 100 other houses and to get anywhere even vaguely quiet or secluded, we’d need to drive a fair way.

Where we live now, there are less than 15 houses in our entire village and we have a lovely big garden for the girls to enjoy, as well as public footpaths leading through the countryside, right on our doorsteps. It means that screen time has been massively already reduced this summer, with the girls choosing to play outside in the paddling pool, riding their bikes, or walking with me and Husband when we take Maureen out (which hasn’t been until about 9pm in this heat!)

We’ve teamed up with Sudocrem to get involved with their latest campaign to get kids outside. As part of the campaign, they are encouraging parents around the UK to nominate a nursery and give them the chance to help improve the nurseries outdoor play area – just click the link to go through the the page for nominations. 

They said: “Children are spending more time indoors than outside and they are missing out on exploring the natural world around them. In fact, research found that 1 in 9 British children have not visited a beach, park or forest in twelve months, and on average, a British child only spends 4 hours a week playing in the great outdoors. [1]This is why Sudocrem set up the award-winning Play More campaign, an initiative designed to encourage parents and children to get back in touch with nature and explore the greatest playground on earth- the outdoors. As part of the campaign, Sudocrem carried out a survey which asked 200 children between the ages of 4 to 8 years old to identify some of the creepy crawlies in Britain. The survey revealed that 9 out of 10 children (89%) were unable to recognise a butterfly even though there is an abundance of native British insects, with around 27,000 insect species calling the UK home. Moreover, 51% didn’t know what a Bumblebee looks like. And, surprisingly, 1 in 3 (29%) didn’t realise that bees make honey[2].

Children are not only unable to identify some of the most distinctive insects, but they are also missing out on the adventure which comes with playing outside in a natural environment.  Over half of those surveyed (59%) admitted that they had never climbed a tree, 89% didn’t know what a Buttercup was and 77% couldn’t identify a Sunflower. Are children losing their sense of wonder and adventure?

According to children’s TV presenter and naturalist, Chris Packham, who’s an ambassador for Play More, parents should be encouraging their children to get outside and explore the natural environment around them. “I was very fortunate when I was a child because I was encouraged to interact with the outdoors- looking under rocks and searching under logs and hedges to find creepy crawlies. If you just open your eyes, you’ll see that there is an incredible natural world out there waiting to be discovered”.”

They’ve given us one of their gorgeous Sudocrem My Little Adventure Packs to give away to one lucky reader.  The kit is worth £40.00 and includes:

– Play More t-shirt
– Play More sun hat
– Bug Pot
– Frisbee
– Butterfly Net
– Magnifying glass
– Trowel or fork

To be in with a chance of winning, leave me a comment below telling me your favourite place to get outdoors with the kids. You’ve got until midnight on 31st July 2018 to enter.

T&Cs: winner will be chosen at random. Winner will have 48 hours to provide me with their postal address once contact has been made. If winner doesn’t respond within this time a new winner will be chosen. No cash alternative offered, prizes supplied and sent by PR company for Sudocrem. Mum’s the Word accepts no liability for supply of prizes.
[1] According to a government report, ‘MENE: A pilot for an indicator of visits to the natural environment by children- results from years 1 to 2 (March 2013-February 2015)’.
[2] National report conducted by Sudocrem, April 2018.

Keeping the Kids Entertained This Summer

keep the kids entertained this summerEven if you’re going away this summer, there’s a good chance that you’ll have at least a month at home, which you’ll be wanting to fill with activities for the kids, keeping the dreaded cries of “MUUUM, we’re BORED!” at bay for as long as possible! There are loads of things that you can do across a variety of budgets, which will fill their summer nicely, and this is just a few of them:

Pony Camp

If you live near a riding stable and have kids who love animals, find out if they’re doing any sort of pony camp during the summer. Last year, Sausage went to a pony camp one day a week for the entire holidays, and although it wasn’t cheap (we paid about £25 per session), it meant that even during quiet weeks, there are at least one day with guaranteed fun! Our stables bought all of their Horse Nutrition Products from Spillers, so we knew they were well cared for.

Shopping Centres

Take a look at the shopping centres near you; many of them have fun days for kids all the way through the holidays, with various characters like Chase from paw Patrol or Anna and Elsa from Frozen turning up. They’re generally free or very cheap, and give you a chance to pop into town for an afternoon of low-cost fun.

Pick Your Own

The nice weather means that you’ll be wanting to get outside as much as possible, and a PYO farm is a lovely bit of wholesome fun for the whole family. You generally only have to pay for the fruit you actually want to take home with you and the kids get to spend a few hours doing something which is about a million miles away from screen-time.

Fun Classes

Okay, so I’m not suggesting you get them doing school work in the holidays, but there are a few different places you can take them where they’ll get to learn something fun. YO! Sushi do awesome sushi making classes for kids, which we tried last year and the girls ADORED, but you’ll also find stuff at your local library, like coding classes, which your kids might enjoy, and again, they’re usually pretty cheap.

Litter Picking

This summer, Husband, the girls and I have decided that we’re making it our mission to go litter picking at least once a week. We live in a beautiful rural spot which is popular with dog walkers and cyclists, but we see an alarming amount of trash and mylar balloons when we’re out on walks. We figured, if we pick up as much as we can, we might offset some of the damage, doing a good deed and spending time together in nature at the same time. It might not be hugely glamorous, but it’s free and we’ll get a nice warm glow for having dome something for the environment.

Ways to Fill the Summer Holidays When You Aren’t Going Abroad

pony schoolIt’s fair to say that Husband, the kids and I are all homebodies. We love the idea of going abroad on holiday but when we had Chuck is was impossible and Maureen is still a little bit too young for us to leave her for too long, so a jaunt abroad is off the cards for now. We do, however, like to fill the summer holidays with as many days out and activities as possible, so that the kids don’t get bored and do that annoying bickering thing that kids do when they spend too much time at home, with only each other to play with! This is just a few of the things we do each year:

Pony School

We’re lucky enough to live close to a few different riding schools and some of them run pony schools in the holidays where the kids spend one day a week riding, grooming and generally “horsing” about (HA!) with the friendlier ponies at the stables. It’s usually about £25 per session and the kids need over the knee boots from UK footwear specialists Uppersole, but it’s pretty good value when you think about how long they get to spend with the ponies.

Garden Beach

Last year, we bought a massive paddling pool, set up the slide, sun loungers, a Bluetooth speaker and some mocktails and had what we called “The Garden Beach”. It was like a very miniature version of lazing around the pool on holiday, the kids thought it was amazing and I loved the chance to sit in the sun and read my book! This year, we’re planning on elaborating and even having a tent by the pool which we may spend the night in, if the kids are brave enough!

Fruit Picking

One of the things we have planned this year is a bit of Pick Your Own – it’s something I did when I was a kid and I absolutely loved it, and as soon as I told the girls about it, they found the idea really exciting so it’s on the list of things to do this summer.

Get the Bus

The kids are lucky enough to have Mummy’s Taxi Service which means they get ferried everywhere in the comfort of our car, but neither of them has ever really experienced public transport much, so they’ve asked if we can take a trip into town on the bus! This may sound very run-of-the-mill, but when you consider that we live in the countryside with one bus stop a mile away and buses which run quite sporadically, I suspect it may be more of an adventure than your usual bus trip!

Cookery Classes

Our local supermarket has a test kitchen and every year they run kids cookery classes throughout the holidays. They’re about £7 per session and include all of the ingredients they need to make a different dish each week. It’s a really nice way for the kids to spend a morning, plus they learn new skills and have the thrill of bringing home and eating what they’ve made.

How To Talk To Your Kids About Sexuality

Talking to Your Kids About SexualityI’ve written before about how Husband and I have a “no B.S.” policy with the girls and how we try to answer questions as honestly as possible, without patronising them or flinching away from difficult subjects. One of the things I’ve always been passionate about is teaching the kids to be both honest about themselves and non-judgemental about other people, and one of the things this covers is sexuality.

I’ve never written about it before, but I’ve had relationships with both men and women, and my kids know this. I figure, if they see how much of a non-issue it is for their Mum, it will be a non-issue for them too, and encourage them to be honest about their own feelings. I know a lot of people struggle to talk to kids about difficult topics, so I thought I’d share some tips with you. There are some good online resources out there where your child can get support such as safe gay social networks however it is a good idea, certainly initially, for you to lead the discussion.

Be Brave

If your child comes to you with questions about sexuality, be it their own or someone else’s, you’re going to need to put your big-girl pants on and HAVE THE CONVERSATION. If you obfuscate, they’ll know, and who would you rather answer their questions; you, or their friends? I’d much rather info came from me so I know it’s true and accurate, rather than other sources which may confuse them more.

Be Honest

As with anything, you know your kid and you probably know how much detail they can cope with, so give them the information within these parameters but always be honest (kids have an uncanny B.S. radar at times!). For younger kids, there’s no need to go into more detail than “men who love men, women who love women, people who love people” to give them a broader idea that sexuality is a spectrum and not confined to the ‘traditional’ image of a couple.

Be Prepared

There’s a good chance that answering questions on this subject will open up a whole list of questions from your kids so be prepared to answer them. Having half a conversation and putting the rest off until a later date will just leave them hanging, or maybe send them in search of the information elsewhere.

Be Open

If your sexuality isn’t something you’ve ever discussed with them, it might be a good idea to do it when they start asking questions. Normalising sexuality by offering your own experiences can give them a relatable focus for their understanding and will show them that you’re open to talking about things, making you the ideal person for them to confide in if they ever need to.

Be Non-Judgemental

I think this is the single most important point of all. If your five year old comes to you and says “Mummy, I think I’m gay”, DO NOT say “No you’re not”. Some people report knowing they were “different” from a very young age, and refusing to accept this can cause added confusion and shame to an already questioning child. I’m not suggesting that you run our and buy rainbow flags for their bedroom but allowing them to express their feelings and helping to guide them through can be the difference between years of mental health problems and a healthy, happy person, whatever their sexuality.

Who Can Foster?

Can members of the LGBT community foster? It is a common question and one that comes with a positive answer.

Being a foster carer is about personal qualities, rather than sexual orientation or gender. Foster children present an array of diverse and complex needs, and that means foster carers from all walks of life are needed.

Why LGBT fostering is a great idea

Despite more open discussion and acceptance of same-sex relationships and marriages, and a dialogue beginning to open over people identifying as transgender, research by Action for Children in 2013 identified that a third of the LGBT community think they are not eligible to become foster carers.

LGBT Fostering and Adoption Week 2018 will take places from 5th to 11th March, with this year’s theme being ‘10 Good Reasons’. Two reasons will be released every day as to why adoption and fostering by the LGBT community is a win-win situation for everyone, the foster child included.

As with any foster placement, it is the needs of the child that take centre stage when it comes to the right placement. Having suffered a traumatic start to life, there is a need for the child to be placed with a carer who understands their needs, working with them to safely explore their feelings.

Does LGBT fostering have positive outcomes?

All potential foster carers (and adopters) complete training as part of their application process. Examining common fostering issues, there is evidence from research that backs up the positive impacts of LGBT fostering.

In 2010, The Centre for Family Research, based at the University of Cambridge, interviewed 82 children and young people whose adopted or foster parents were lesbian, gay or bisexual;

  • No difference – the very young children of gay parents didn’t see their families as being any different to those of their friends.
  • Special & different – older children did see their families as special and different but here’s the great bit: these children saw all families as special and different, not just their own.
  • More accepting – children who were adopted or fostered by gay parents said they didn’t mind their parents being gay but they did wish that other people were more accepting and ‘minded less’.

And this isn’t the only piece of research that shows how LGBT fostering and adopting of children is making a difference. A later piece of research by the University of Cambridge on behalf of British Association for Adoption and Fostering (BAAF) also found that same-sex couples who adopted were successful. In particular, it found that children of gay fathers fared particularly well.

Helping children to thrive

Essentially, fostering children is about helping them to thrive, whilst making sense of their world. As adults, we assume that because same-sex couples are ‘different’ because transgender people are ‘different’ or, that bisexual people are ‘different’ that this will hinder foster children.

But the evidence shows that it is this ‘difference’ that is a platform for fostered and adopted children to thrive.

The same application process

Applications to become foster carers are welcomed from everyone and no matter what your gender, relationship status or sexuality, the application process is the same;

  1. More information – if you are interested in fostering (or adopting), you need to get more information not just about the process but what being a foster carer really means.
  2. Home visits – if you decide to continue with your application, a social worker will start a series of home visits to complete the application form, as well as discuss worries and concerns you may have.
  3. Initial training – fostering agencies, as part of the application process, facilitate training over several days that looks at core fostering values, as well as issues and challenges.
  4. Approval – once the application form is complete and you have attended the training course, your application is reviewed by a panel. If they are satisfied all criteria is met and you understand what fostering is about, they will approve your application. Within weeks of this happening, you could be welcoming your first foster child into your home!

There is no denying the fulfilment that you and your partner, if you have one, will get from fostering a child. Could you provide a home for a child in need?

Creating a Kid’s Wardrobe for Bad Weather

There’s nothing like a sudden-onset Snowmageddon to make me realise how woefully underprepared we are for cold weather. The girls both have decent winter coats, as do Husband and I, but in terms of proper cold weather gear, it’s only Husband who was sorted. Not only does he have water-resistant jeans and gaiters to protect his lower legs, he also has all-weather boots and merino layers for his top half. As you can tell, he spends a lot more time outdoors than the women of this household do!

We went out sledging on Wednesday, and it was so wonderful and fun, but we had to go home after an hour as the cold started to seep in and Sausage’s legs ended up damp after she decided to cheese-roll down a hill! I’ve been looking at kids winter clothes on the internet, in the spirit of being a bit more prepared if more snow turns up and thought I’d share some of my favourite items with you:

Didriksons 1913 Moarri Overall

Aside from the fact that this base layer is SUPER cute, I think both girls could really benefit from a proper thermal base layer to wear when it gets cold. We’ve been layering with wooly tights under their trousers but it’s not very comfortable or practical, so something like this would be properly fit for purpose.

Color Kids Tudo Pants

These fleecy pants would be so much better for outdoor fun, because they’re nice and loose fitting, unlike jeans which can be really restrictive and hard to run around in. These would make an excellent mid-layer over thermals and under a snow suit and the girls would find them super comfortable.

Isbjörn Panda Sweater

As well as being water-repellent, this fleece protects against sharp wind and is a brilliant mid-layer for wearing under waterproofs. Layering like this would give the girls the ability to still move around and either add more layers or take some off, depending on their environment.

Color Kids Klement Overall Children

This waterproof overall would be absolutely perfect for cheeserolling down hills in! The girls could play in the snow for as long as they want witout ever having to worry about getting wet, and the bright colours mean they’re really easy to see on a background of pure white. In fact, I love this overall so much that I wish they also made it in my size!

Sorel Whitney Short Boots

If there’s one thing that I’ve learned from my very outdoorsy Husband, it’s that good footwear is VERY important. Having the right pair of boots for your environment is basically the most essential part of any outdoor wardrobe, and these snow boots look as though they’d be perfect for the girls. They have a decent sole, are lined with microfleece and are waterproof – ideal for afternoons gadding about in the snow.

Are you regular outdoorsy people? Do you have a favourite selection of clothes that you wear when the temperature plummets? Leave me a comment below as I’d love to hear from you.

Why ‘Me Time’ is Important as a Parent

When you become a parent, it’s pretty safe to say that your whole world changes forever. No longer are you able to cater solely to your own whims and wishes; instead, there is a tiny baby relying on you for care, support, love and attention.

Of course, welcoming a new baby into the family is an exciting time unlike any other, but as the weeks, months and years pass by, despite your best intentions, sometimes things can become a little overwhelming.

Many prospective parents underestimate just how much work goes into raising a child, which is sadly why some find it difficult to cope. After all, it’s not just an increased level of care and responsibility. For most, it’s also sleepless nights and lack of sleep coupled with a disrupted routine and, in the early days, often a lack of adult social contact.

For these reasons, it’s important to remember to take some time out to just be yourself. Parenting is hard work, so sometimes, it will do you good to take a step back and spend a few hours as yourself rather than just ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’.

What Makes Self-Care Essential?

Of course, self-care is important throughout life. Taking the time to look after yourself will improve your mental health and wellbeing, helping you to become a happier, more confident person in yourself. Even just a few hours a week can help you to relax, unwind and de-stress, enabling you to refresh yourself ready for the upcoming week.

However, many parents struggle to find time for themselves. Young children require around the clock care, and the need to be constantly on hand can end up taking away your personal time. One solution is to find a trusted family member or close friend who won’t mind babysitting for a few hours every now and then. Alternatively, there is always the potential to squeeze in a couple of hours in the evenings once you’ve put your little one to bed for the night – as long as they sleep through the night!

What are the Benefits of Time to Yourself?

‘Me time’ allows you the capability to pursue your own hobbies and interests, as well as ensuring that you are able to adequately relax. Of course, how you choose to spend your personal time is entirely up to you, but it is a good idea to try and vary things so you can fit in everything you want to do.

While catching up on your favourite TV series or finally getting to finish that book is a good place to start, why not consider pampering yourself with a little indulgence? Whether it’s a full-blown home spa experience or just taking the time for a catch-up with a few friends, these are all great ways to unwind. For those parents who are regularly pressed for time, why not treat yourself to your favourite dish for dinner or take five minutes out to enjoy a luxurious cup of coffee? Investing in the best quality coffee equipment can be a nice way to treat yourself every now and then – after all, being a parent is the most difficult job on earth!

While bringing up children is an incredibly rewarding experience, it’s also essential that you are in the best possible position to be able to give them your all. Being stressed and overworked can be detrimental to your health in both the short and long-term, so it’s important to do what you can to combat the pressures of everyday life. At the end of the day, regularly taking the time to properly look after yourself is a surefire way to lead to a happier, healthier version of yourself.

Ideas to make weddings more kid-friendly and fun

Kid-friendly weddingsMany couples prefer adult-only weddings and receptions, but many feel the need to include all the children in their lives and families. This is especially noticeable in the case of couples getting remarried. If you’re planning a black-tie function, then children probably won’t be invited, but if not, then most families have kids of all ages where weddings tend to become boring for the children present. Most couples getting married are very attached to their nieces, nephews, cousins, or even their own children. If this is the case with you and your partner, then it is usually a good idea to be prepared with a few kid-friendly provisions.

Katie from Orla James attended a wedding recently where almost all the invitations were sent out to couples with children. The wedding was planned around kid-friendly ideas that made it a fun event for the adults and children attending and many of the adults actively took part in playing with the children! This made the entire wedding a very loving, family-oriented event with the couple being blessed by adults and children alike.

Let us look at a few ideas to make weddings more kid-friendly.

Kids Meals:

There is nothing more important than ensuring there are kid-friendly meals available. Speak to your wedding caterer in advance and look at several finger food and dining options for kids. Avoid spicy foods and foods that can be messy to eat. With kids present, the idea is to have simple, yet tasty food. Have ample cheese platters, fruit platters, chicken fingers, and French fries. In drinks, opt for fresh juices, smoothies, chocolate shakes, and non-alcoholic drinks with funny names to make it more enjoyable. Avoid foods and drinks that might have an allergic reaction, and avoid keeping seafood on the kid’s menu.

 Have some activities planned:

Have an activity station or area cordoned off for kids so that they can remain occupied throughout the reception. If your event planner has some kid-friendly ideas for activities, incorporate those too. Keep an ample stock of non-toxic crayons, coloring books, story tales, and organized games like hopscotch and group games. You can also have a Lego station to keep kids occupied in a fun manner.

One couple also had a wedding themed coloring book made with outlines of their special dates for kids to color. You could also set up a ‘Kids Only’ tent with an attendant to ensure they are well taken care of. If possible, hire an entertainer and sitter to keep the kids busy throughout the ceremony and reception. This will help parents also enjoy the wedding without having to constantly look after the children.

 Give kids useful wedding favors:

Planning wedding favors for kids is always an impossible task. Most kids love getting gifts. Tie the wedding favors with little bows in colorful wrapping paper to make them look extra special. You can pot for little treats of marshmallows and gummy bears as wedding favors. If you want to avoid treats, opt for small board games, coloring books, non-toxic crayons, school bags, lunchboxes, craft kits, and so on.

 Set up special seating for kids:

Kids find it difficult to sit on chairs meant for adults. You could organize mini bean bags, small chairs, and tables. Speak to your wedding organizer about décor and seating arrangements for children. Many times, these services are also offered apart from regular table décor and decorations and seating arrangements. You could also include placemats with little puzzles to solve as table décor for children. Small word search puzzles, join-the-dots, and color by numbers, or mini quizzes are always great entertainment and fun for kids while being seated.

 Get the kids involved in your wedding:

Let kids know that they will be welcome on the dance floor during the reception and should let the DJ or band playing know what music they would also like to dance to. If you are aware of this in advance, you could include some kid-friendly songs in your music selection. You could also give them disposable cameras and tell them to take lots of pictures at the wedding so that you can add the best ones in the wedding album. Let the children also know that you will send them these photos later.

Whatever you decide for children’s entertainment at your wedding, make sure to budget for it in advance so that it does not seem like an additional cost. Making your wedding child-friendly is a wonderful way to include all your loved ones in your special day!

Being an Adult Sometimes Sucks

Don't Make Me AdultIf there’s one thing I could teach my kids it’s that they need to manage their expectations when it comes to being an adult. Yeah, it’s all fun and games when you’re 18, in your first full time job so you’ve got pots of cash but no real responsibilities, but once you start having to actually be a PROPER ADULT, the sheen wears off pretty damn soon! If I’d known when I was a kid that there are some aspects of adulthood which, quite honestly, SUCK I might not have been so keen to rush towards it. Here’s just a few of them:

Christmas is No Longer About Me

When I was a kid, Christmas was something that just happened to me. I didn’t have to think about budgets and present buying and food and making it magical, it JUST HAPPENED. Now that I’m the adult, I have to be the one to think about these things (although I am EXTREMELY lucky in the fact that Husband does most of the Christmas shopping every year so that I don’t have to) and it really reduces the magic levels. The one thing I DO like is that Husband and I usually wait until the January sales and treat each other then, and this year I’m hoping for a new bag in the handbags sale!

I Have to Make Crappy Decisions

This ranges from the small and seemingly insignificant to the huge and life-changing, and decisions from every part of that spectrum can feel really rubbish at times. Sure, it’s fun to decide where we go on holiday or what cute outfits I’m going to dress BB in, but everything else can feel like a crushing weight when we don’t know what the outcome of our decisions will be.

THE PRESSURE!!!

When you’re a kid, or even a young adult, no one expects much of you. You don’t have to have an immaculate home, you don’t have kids so there’s no healthy meals, good schooling or extracurricular activities to think about, you aren’t even expected to be sober for much of the time. When you’re a proper grown-up, being a drunk, slovenly mother who’s kids don’t go to swimming lessons is FROWNED UPON. So, even when times get tough, you have to hold your shit together for the sake of the small people you grew in your body and just keep on keeping on.

Which parts of being an adult do you hate the most?