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The Light At The End Of The Tunnel… Preventative Measures As We Age

We don’t like to discuss it because of all the anxiety that comes with it, but old age is something we’ve all got to face. And while there’s a lot more in the news about what you can do to prepare for the onset of things like Alzheimer’s or dementia, what are the real issues we can prepare for at any age? And in fact, it’s not even just issues that are related to old age, but the fact is that deterioration is something that happens to all of us. So what are the main concerns and what can we do about it?

Cancer

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It’s something that affects a lot more now in the modern world than it did decades ago but that’s not to say that modern living is the cause for us all running the risk of getting cancer. The risk of developing cancer does increase as we age. And the rates of skin cancer are through the roof now, especially in younger people, so that’s not to say that it is exclusively an age-related condition. Cancer is something that can have a profound impact on our lives, and while there is no one way to prevent it, as we’ve all seen that even young, seemingly healthy, individuals can get cancer at a young age. And a lot of people are now subscribing to the fact that cancer is down to an acidic body which a lot of people are dismissive of. The only thing we can all do to keep on top of this is to make sure we get regular check ups and listen to our body. Also if you feel that something isn’t right, especially on a superficial level, such as moles or lesions, that you have a concern about there are specialised organisations like SkinHealth UK who can screen you for tests. The amount of research into cancer is continually increasing, but the cliche is, of course, that we do our best to live healthy lives and cut down on stress. And this isn’t just a vital part of your life as you get older, but it’s something you can do right now, whatever your age.

Arthritis And Osteoporosis

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In many ways, two sides to the same coin. Arthritis is a leading cause of disability and affects half of the elderly population in the world. Preventing arthritis is all about doing regular and steady exercise rather than overdoing it at the weekend. A decrease in bone mass is a major contribution towards osteoporosis which can be prevented by avoiding specific triggers such as alcohol, smoking, and even drinks like soda, which will encourage your body to lose calcium. If you don’t have enough calcium in your diet, it is taken from our bones. Exercise is another way to increase bone mass, and there’s a lot of research in weight training as a way to increase bone density. But the trick is, especially if you are over 50, to build up your baseline level of fitness, which means you need to do just enough to feel the benefits, but also make sure that you rest adequately.

Hearing Loss And Vision Impairment

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One of the first things to go as we age, our vision can be affected by varying ailments such as macular degeneration, glaucoma, and diabetic retinopathy. Surprisingly smokers are at a higher risk for macular degeneration, and it’s a habit that needs to be stubbed out as soon as possible. Again regular check ups will be the key to preventing something like glaucoma, because if you lose your vision due to that, you can’t get it back. Hearing loss is a major issue for people as they get older and it doesn’t just impact the quality of life, but it can be seen as a contributing factor towards depression and withdrawing from social activities. And while there are solutions for coping with hearing loss such as hearing aids, only one in four people use them. Lifestyle is a big contributor to hearing loss, especially if you go to loud concerts and use earphones that go directly into your ear canal.

Depression And Anxiety

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Naturally, as we become concerned about our mortality issues, anxiety and depression can rear their ugly heads and can cause us to feel disconnected from our loved ones. Depression is such an overarching condition, but research is showing that the one thing that will help with managing the symptoms of depression is a social life, however little it may be. Feeling withdrawn can compound itself, so if you can find a way to interact with people, this will be a big help. For a lot of people, depression arises as a side effect of retiring. Many people find their sense of self-worth is tied up into their work and so feeling without purpose has led to an increase in suicide rates. To combat this feeling of uselessness, it’s vital that you stay connected to whoever is around you. As we age, we think of more about the parents or grandparents we have lost, but with the children and grandchildren that come along, it is a new lease of life. Ultimately it’s about finding what makes you happy and gives you a sense of purpose in life, which is something we all tend to lose track of because we are dwelling on the more negative parts of aging.

These are the most fundamental parts of getting older. We are all susceptible to more disease, mental health problems, as well as losing our faculties. Prevention is always better than cure as we age, but if we can enter into old age with an open mindset rather than a negative one, this will prepare us more for the challenges that lie ahead. They say a mind is a terrible thing to waste, but also our twilight years can be a waste if we don’t use them properly. Whatever your age, you can start now to think about putting the lifestyle practices in place that will help you to enjoy your old age and make the most of your time on this earth. So, do the things you’ve always wanted to do, while you can!

Popping The Stress Bubble

Stress has become one of the most commonly used words in our vocabulary. Sometimes, it can seem like we’re living in a stress bubble where everyone we meet has something going on, and there’s a shortage of time that makes it impossible to get everything done. If you feel like you’re always rushing or you’ve been struggling to deal with your emotions of late, you’re not alone. Almost everyone will endure at least one bout of severe stress in their lifetime. If you’re keen to pop the stress bubble, here are some tips to help you cope when times get tough.

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Managing your time

Many of us feel stressed not because we’re unhappy, but because we don’t have enough hours in the day to get through our to-do lists. If you’re running around like a headless chicken day in, day out, this is going to take its toll eventually. Time is a luxury for many, but often, making changes to the way you manage your diary can help. Firstly, work out why you’re struggling. Have you got too much on at work or have you been working overtime for as long as you can remember? If this is the case, it’s time to take control over the working day. If you’re exceeding your contracted hours, talk to your boss. It may be possible to reduce your workload, and it’s important that they are aware that you’re working too much. If you’re a parent, you may be finding it difficult to cope because you’re trying to be in a number of places at the same time. If you’ve got school runs and after school clubs to fit around work, it can be tough to make everyone’s schedules work. Ask for help from friends and family and try and join forces with other parents. If you can share lifts, for example, this could be mutually beneficial.

When you’re planning your week, use a diary or an app and make sure you have everything written down. If it looks like it’s going to be a hectic week, make some calls and see if people can help you out. Recognize that it’s ok to say no sometimes. If you can’t work longer hours or it’s going to be impossible to make your child’s swimming class this week, don’t pile more stress on yourself by trying to make everything work. When you’re scheduling, always remember to fit in some time for yourself. Life should never be all work and no play.

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Addressing the cause

There are so many different reasons why people feel stressed. Sometimes, life gets hectic, and you feel like you’re under pressure. In other cases, there’s a trigger or an event, such as losing your job, a bereavement, illness or money worries. Whatever the situation, it’s always beneficial to think about why you feel stressed. Write down how you’re feeling and try and work out why. If you know what’s making you upset or anxious, it will be much easier to try and find ways of easing stress and making you feel happier and more comfortable.

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Working on yourself

When it comes to thinking about how to deal with stress, everyone is different. We all respond to stress in different ways, and coping mechanisms are much more effective for some than others. When you’re stressed out, it’s important to recognise the triggers and symptoms and work on yourself. Put yourself first and try and combat symptoms before they get worse. There are lots of different self-help techniques you can try, and it’s also a good idea to seek medical advice if you’re struggling or the situation is getting worse.

Different methods work for different cases. If you’re exhausted, you’re under pressure at work, or you’re struggling to sleep at night because your mind is active, you may find techniques like meditation, yoga or creative activities beneficial. Write things down or paint a picture, note down some song lyrics or do some colouring in. Run a bath and listen to some music or download some guided meditations and find a quiet space for five minutes. Exercise can be hugely beneficial, and you can choose an activity to suit your mood. Pilates and yoga can help you relax and wind down while something like a spin class, a boxing session or high-intensity interval training can help you release tension, frustration, and anger. Getting more sleep and off-loading can also help. If you have a friend, a partner or a relative you can confide in, share what’s going on in your head. If you don’t feel comfortable ranting or pouring your heart out to somebody you know, it may be worth talking to your doctor about counselling.

In some cases, self-help techniques can be effective, but they’re not powerful enough to get you back on track. Therapies such as talking treatments and medication may be recommended.

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Spotting early signs

When you’ve battled stress before and won, it’s really beneficial to keep an eye out for triggers and early warning signs. If you feel like you’re getting stressed again, don’t let it get worse. Take some time out, sort your diary out or see your counsellor again. Use any methods you found effective last time to help reduce symptoms this time around.

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We hear people talking about stress all the time. Sometimes, we’re guilty of saying that we’re stressed out without stress really being an issue, but there’s no denying that stress has a significant impact on our lives. If you are under pressure, you’re worried or anxious about work, money or relationships or you’re trying to come to terms with illness or the loss of a loved one, it’s important to try and manage stress and to understand that it’s fine to ask for help. Stress is often something we can shrug off, but if it’s left to fester, it can become more serious, and it can have a damaging effect on both physical and mental health. If you are finding life a challenge, there’s no harm in trying some relaxation therapies and seeking advice from your doctor.

Discreet Treatment for Chlamydia

So, you’ve had unprotected sex with someone and it was great…until you get a text to say “Err…I’m really sorry but I think I gave you chlamydia…”. This might sound like something which happens to someone in their early twenties, but actually rates of middle aged STD contraction has gone up at an eye-wateringly sharp rate, for a number of reasons.

40 years ago, the majority of middle-aged people were married or in long term relationships, but with divorce rates high, dating apps the go-to method of meeting someone new, and sexual liberation giving people more freedom to explore their sexuality, more middle-aged people than ever are getting diseases which would once have been considered the plight of the young.

Chlamydia is one of those diseases which is easy to treat, but also goes undetected really often (up to SEVENTY percent of women don’t even know they have chlamydia) and when left to do it’s thing can lead to some pretty devastating symptoms, including Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and even total infertility.

The key to coming away unscathed is treating it promptly, so if you’ve had sexual unprotected contact with someone then make sure you get tested ASAP. It’s also possible to buy the medication you need online without a prescription, just by filling in a questionnaire. Azithromycin Chlamydia antibiotic tablets are a two-tablet dose and is 95% effective at clearing the infection, allowing you to avoid a potentially awkward conversation with your GP!

Brian from www.quickdoctor.co.uk said “Chlamyida is a massively common sexually transmitted infection and absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Left untreated it can cause you serious harm so its important you treat it with the correct medications available to you.”

If you think you’ve been in contact with an STD, it’s also possible to buy home testing kits, giving you another discreet option for detection and treatment. However, don’t forget that you’ll also need to inform any other sexual partners that you may have had in the meantime – and investing in a stash of condoms would also be a good idea for any future encounters that youmight end up having!

 

Seeds Pack the Ultimate Punch (Giveaway)

Any parent of young children will be familiar with those times when you grab for something – anything – that will give you the energy to get through the next few hours without falling asleep on your laundry pile or sink full of dishes. A tablespoon of peanut butter at 9pm; half a baguette at 5am; handfuls of dry cereal as the older kids eat breakfast and you look for your keys, and shoes.

While pregnant we are endlessly mindful about what we eat, drink and breathe. We look after our bodies for the sake of our precious, unborn child and are glowing, buoyant gatekeepers – eating well, taking our vitamins and drinking our litres of water. But once baby is born we all-too-often become janitors – shuffling through the day on just enough empty calories to keep us upright and putting all the focus on keeping the children healthy. Actually the truth is that eating a healthy, nutritious diet while breastfeeding, or through days of little sleep, or while balancing households full to the brim with dependents, is just as important as during those serene, pregnant days. And prioritizing a balanced diet of healthy, whole foods for mum – plate-spinner and family-pivot – is crucial for our health, energy, happiness and mental health.

And here’s where we come to the star of the show – seeds – which really do pack a punch for such a small player. Seeds provide us with a wide range of essential oils and nutrients and fall within the guidelines of most dietary restrictions. Snacking on seeds not only offers fantastic health benefits, providing much-needed nutrients, they are full of slow-release energy, so perfect for long days (and nights) as parents of young children.

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And let’s not stop there. Seeds are great for kids too. With so many nut allergies around, seeds are a safe go-to gap-filler. And their slow-release energy is a winner when it comes to being focused. Unlike the peak and crash of a high sugar snack, it’s well documented that eating whole foods result in better application, concentration and stamina for the classroom, pitch and playground.

Don’t know your linseed from your birdseed? Don’t worry. Allow us to shepherd you through the seeds currently topping the pops, how best to use them and their various life-bettering properties.Chia means ‘strength’ and as far as fuel goes, it doesn’t get much better than this. Chia seeds are full of nutrients and, unlike some seeds, come with very few calories. Harvested from a flowering plant in the mint family, these seeds can absorb a lot of liquid – they expand to hold about ten times their dry weight. Chia is a real all-rounder; it’s used in puddings and porridge, added to smoothies and sprinkled on salads.

Flaxseed (also called linseed) is packed full of good things including dietary fiber, omega-3 and vitamin B1 – you can see why it is often referred to as wonder food. You have to grind flaxseed before using it but once you’ve done that labour of love, you can add it to anything from morning porridge to homemade bread.

Pumpkin seeds have long been a favourite for healthy snackers, and they haven’t lost their appeal. Bringing vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and essential acids with every handful, these seeds are seriously versatile. They can be eaten raw or cooked in sweet or savoury dishes – or simply roasted for a super on-the-go snack.

Sunflower seeds are crunchy and nutty and usually eaten plain as a snack or simply sprinkled on salads. Filled with antioxidants, magnesium, copper and Vitamin E, they are top of their game and are even said to bring a glow to tired skin! Filled with goodness that’s drawn straight from the sun, they become the star of the show in recipes such as sunflower seed pesto and homemade bread.

Seeds really do deserve the hype. And there’s family fun to be had growing them too. Summer is around the corner, the sun will be shinning and kids love planting and getting their hands dirty so grab a paper cup, pop a few sunflower seeds and soil into it and get kids growing their own in your own home. And for those of us who don’t have the time to brush our hair let alone grow seeds, there’s 9NINE.

9NINE products celebrate super seeds and are the perfect snack for people who care about their well-being but don’t always have time to prepare snacks from scratch. Seeds provide big tastes for even the smallest occasions – if you aren’t already, it’s time to take seeds seriously!

Nutrients in 9NINE:

Magnesium restores mindfulness with good energy
Fibre boosts your body with good digestion
Copper activates your immune system
Phosphorous looks after your mental energy
Vitamin E gets your skin glowing
Thiamin gets the best energy out of your food

Potassium gives your heart the love it deserves
Manganese maintains strength through healthy bones
Calcium keeps the balance with happy hormones
Zinc gives a natural immune boost
Protein is an essential building block for a balanced life
Iron keeps oxygen moving around the body

To win a collection of goodies from 9NINE, leave me a comment below telling me which of the ingredients you need the most at the moment, be it calcium for the happy hormones, zinc for your immune system or something else!

Winners will be drawn at random on 4th July 2017, no cash alternative will be offered.

Don’t Let Anything Stop You from Getting Back to Your Normal

Have you not been feeling yourself as of late? Have you, for whatever reason, felt a bit different to how you normally feel? Whether it’s a mental or a physical plight that is making you feel a bit off you can rest assured that there is help out there. There are services that willing and waiting to help you. All you have to do is accept their help.

If your physical wellbeing is in fact bringing you down, and causing you a great discomfort at that, then why stand for it any longer? There are host of professional services out there just waiting to right any wrongs in your body, so use them! You don’t have to spend all of your hard earned cash on bills, food and treats for your family, you know. It is absolutely not a waste of money to spend your cash on a bout of treatment for YOUR aches and pains. Whether this be in the form of a local chiropractor in order to ease your back and neck troubles or a professional massage parlour to relax your muscles, you do it. There’s no point continuing with your everyday life if you feel any discomfort, and there’s no need to do so either. No matter how big you think your problem is you should get it sorted in order to retain the standard of living that you deserve. Even the slightest of pains can be treated, and they really should be before they escalate any further.

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There’s also no shame in taking care of your appearance if that does indeed ever make you feel anything less than normal. Now, you can’t hide your face away at all times which means you do have to subject it to things that will damage it. But you can still take care of your skin, you know. Similarly, you can’t realistically protect your mind from being stretched or frazzled at some points in the day if you live a hectic life. Sometimes life will throw stressful situations your way which will leave you feeling less than normal. But what’s stopping you from getting back to normal once the ordeal is over? If you are feeling nowhere near 100% in your own mind you should never be tentative to tell others. You should never be afraid to say ‘I won’t be coming out tonight’ if you don’t feel mentally up to it. Mental health is sometimes not given the care it deserves, so why don’t you buck the trend by bettering your mental wellbeing.

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Everybody deserves to feel brilliant every single day. Granted, there are a load of everyday plights that seemingly try their best to stop this. But it’s not about stopping with these plights it’s about managing them to suit you. For example, you can’t stop taking your kids to school in the winter and subjecting your face to the blistering winds. You can, however, fight the effects caused by these winds and keep your skin ‘normal’. Whatever ‘normal’ is for you, you should never let anything stop you from getting back to it!

 

Making Our Own Raw Chocolate with Indigo Herbs

Indigo Herbs Raw ChocolateSince I’ve been on a ketogenic diet, I feel like I’ve learned a lot about nutrition and what we should be putting in our bodies, which in turn has made me hyper-conscious about what is in the food we eat. Even on a rare “cheat” day, I’m checking labels and have still been known to shun food which are pure sugar or artificial ingredients, which is why I was really intrigued when Indigo Herbs offered to send me one of their raw chocolate kits, containing everything we need to make our own raw chocolates.

So what, I hear you ask, is raw chocolate? Well, the guys at Indigo Herbs say it a lot better than I can:

“Much of the Cacao bean’s natural goodness gets destroyed in the heating process of conventional chocolate making. Consequently the feel good factor often experienced when eating chocolate is significantly more noticeable with raw chocolate because much more of the feel good chemical compounds remain intact. The Cacao bean is naturally so rich in nutrients that when the ingredients are handled and processed at low temperatures, these micro-nutrients remain available.”

The kit was really beautifully packaged and would make an excellent gift for an health-conscious foodie, and it was so simple to make that I let Sausage and Burrito Baby help too. The instructions on the kit are really clear and concise and I think Sausage could actually have managed all by herself if it wasn’t for needing me to sort out the bain marie. We made them at the dining room table and the whole room smelled AMAZING by the time we’d finished.

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In terms of taste, the chocolates were genuinely some of the best I’ve ever tried. The brazil nuts and goji berries, combined with the slightly bitter raw chocolate flavour made them feel decadent and satisfying – there’s no way you could over-indulge on these because one or two is enough to well and truly satiate your sweet tooth. Before I cut carbs out of my diet, I had a monster sweet tooth and could eat chocolate almost endlessly, but eating a diet which consists mostly of savoury food has sort of reset my taste buds, making even the smallest morsel of sweet food enough.

Obviously, the beauty of these chocolates is the ingredients. There’s literally nothing in them which isn’t totally natural and the sugar comes from agave nectar which is a low-GI sweetener and doesn’t cause spikes in blood sugar. Nutrition-wise, the chocolates have 72 calories per portion, which is made up of 4.9g carbs, 3.1g fat and 1.2g protein – perfect for someone like me who is on under 20g of carbs per day – keeping these in the fridge to have with a cup of coffee as an afternoon pick-me-up would not only be a welcome addition to a largely savoury menu but is also a real morale booster. There’s huge mental value to being able to treat yourself to something which is basically guilt-free when you’re on a restricted diet.

I’m genuinely really impressed by the kit on so many levels – it looks good, it contains everything you need, its easy to use and the results are fantastic. I’d be thrilled to receive one of these kits as a gift and also love the fact that I feel confident in giving them to my children because the ingredients are all natural. Thanks to Indigo Herbs for introducing us to raw chocolate – we’re definite converts! (Get Your Raw Chocolate Kit here)

Taking Weight Loss to the Next Level

Your diet and exercise program may not be enough to help you lose the weight you want to. Maybe you aren’t losing the weight as quickly as you would like or every time you get rid of the fat, it comes back a few weeks or months later. Your problem is likely that your methods of weight loss simply are not effective enough. You need something more serious to combat this problem.

Major Diet Change

What a lot of people will do when they try to lose weight is just cut back on the amount of food they eat. That’s not going to be enough, in most cases, since the body may alter the rate at which it absorbs and retains fat to compensate for dietary changes. Instead, you may need to drastically change what you are eating.
The biggest culprits for weight gain are fat, sugar and carbohydrates. If you can just about eliminate them from your diet, then you are going to make some serious progress on your weight loss. Consciously cut out foods that contain these ingredients from your diet, or at least seriously reduce them, and you will have no problem shedding the fatty weight.

HIIT Workouts

One of the most effective exercise routines for fast weight loss is the HIIT workout. That stands for high-intensity interval training. These exercises get your heart pumping and jump start your metabolism, forcing your body to burn fat. By doing them in short intervals, you not only give yourself some breathing room and make the exercising easier on yourself, but you also get the body used to the idea of burning up fat instead of storing it. There are lots of different maneuvers you can use as part of these exercises, so if something seems too hard for you to do, just move on to a different exercise until you find the right fit for you.

Orlistat

Out of all the medications, supplements and weight loss pills you could take, Orlistat is one of the safest and most effective. The treatment method ensures that your body doesn’t hold onto as much fat as it used to, burning it off instead of storing it up. That’s great for shedding pounds, but it needs to be used in connection with a low carb diet and exercise. That way, you can reap the most benefits. If all you do is take Orlistat and you don’t change anything else about the way you live, then you won’t see hardly any results. It needs the power of an effective metabolism behind it, and it needs to have less work to do and less fat to get rid of, which comes from eating a healthier diet.
All of these methods will only work if you stick with them, go through the effort required to pull them off and be cautious about how hard you are pushing yourself. You want to get results, but not at the risk of losing your health, so if you have any medical issues, you should talk to your doctor first before you begin any of these extreme weight loss methods.

When Cancer Strikes: Helping Kids Cope When Someone in Your Family Gets Sick

It can be difficult for kids to fully understand or handle the situation when someone in the family is sick and needs medical help to try and help them recover.

Unfortunately, cancer visits many families and aside from the emotional trauma of contending with such a serious condition, there is also the prospect of endless visits to the hospital and the need to help provide some peace and quiet, all of which can be difficult for kids to cope with.

Here is a look at some ways to help kids deal with someone in their family getting sick. There is an overview of how to talk to your kids about the situation, making allowances for their age and expected emotional reactions, plus some tips on getting support outside of the family network.

We need to talk

There are many distressing and difficult scenarios that you might have to contend with when a close relative is diagnosed with cancer, and one of those challenges is what to say to the children and when to have that conversation with them.

Rather than just come right out with it at some unplanned opportunity, it is often a much better idea to plan what you intend to say to your kids in advance.

Working through the conversation in your mind and even discussing how to relay such traumatic information to a child with a health professional who understands the situation, can help you to deliver the news in the best way possible, considering the circumstances.

Keep it simple

The age of your children will obviously make a difference to how you talk to them about cancer and what is happening with a loved one, but the general suggestion is always to use simple language and give them ample opportunity to absorb the information.

It is often the case that you will need to repeat what you are saying several times and be prepared to answer any questions they come up with during the conversation.

Emotional reaction

Children will normally experience slightly different emotional reactions and school age children who have yet to hit their teens, are sometimes likely to experience feelings of guilt if it is one of their parents who is sick.

You will have to work on reassuring them that clearly, they bear no responsibility for what is happening.

 Teenagers are more likely to experience some noticeable emotional highs and lows, which means that they can display moments of anger, sadness, and anxiety, as well as feeling depressed about the situation at certain points.

It is worth mentioning the mandala coloring app by Apalon Apps which is an adult coloring book to help reduce stress. Suggest downloading apps like this that encourage mindfulness, as it could be a useful tool they could relate to when they are struggling with their emotions.

Keep their school in the loop

Dealing with cancer in the family is a deeply personal situation but it is important that if you have a child at school who is trying to cope with this problem at home, they know what is going on.

Their school can often be very helpful and understanding as they will be aware of how a family crisis can affect a child. They can make allowances for their performance and behavior, plus offer some extra support as and when they need it.

It is never going to be easy coping with cancer, but there are things you can do to help your kids cope with the situation as well as they can be expected to.

Sophie Horton is a whizz when it comes to keeping kids occupied. She is Auntie to 5 kids who range in age from 1 to 15. Her articles discuss looking after kids when they are away from home and keeping everyone happy.

Dear ‘Woman At The Gym’…

Dear Woman at the gym,

I’m sorry that my car was in your way when you decided to swing your own car door into it in the car park today and I’m sorry that I didn’t meet your entirely insincere apology with acceptance. I’m sorry that I flipped you the bird after you asked me “what my fucking problem was” when I just shrugged after you screeched “I DID SAY SORRY” through my car window.

I’m sorry that you felt the need to start throwing petty insults at me as you walked away and I’m sorry that I sank to your level when I got out of the car to confront you about your aggressive and abusive demeanour. I’m sorry that you decided to stoop even lower and start insulting my appearance, my weight and my apparent lack of effort at the gym. I’m sorry that you felt the need to tell me that I should “get my fat arse to a personal trainer” because you didn’t actually see me squat 45kg, deadlift 65kg and bust out my overhead press, despite fucking HATING that lift.

I’m sorry that I don’t wear make-up to the gym, like you. I’m sorry I don’t look good in lycra yet. I’m sorry that I don’t see the point in blowdrying my hair before I lug heavy weights around. I’m sorry that my car was obviously an indicator of how “poor” I am, according to your words. I’m sorry that after absorbing your nasty words I sank even lower to meet you in the gutter and hurl insults back at you.

I’m NOT sorry that I called you an old hag, because damn it felt good to give you a taste of your own medicine.

I’m sorry that I’ve spent all day stewing over your words. I’m sorry that I’ve given you space inside my head that you seriously don’t deserve. I’m sorry about whatever happened to you today to make you behave so randomly aggressive towards me for no reason. I’m sorry that your world view makes you think you’re somehow better than me because you weigh less. Your behaviour today is the biggest indicator that this isn’t true.

I’m sorry that men get SO much of the blame about being intimidating to women when it’s actually women like YOU who are a betrayal of the sisterhood, a reason that some women may not even have the courage to venture into the gym. I’m sorry that there are probably women out there who are sacrificing their health so they don’t encounter bitches like you in the a place where people should all be supporting each other. I’m sorry that your life is so shitty that you need to take it out on other people. I’m sorry that I burst into tears in Waitrose, after the adrenaline had dissipated, because your words had actually really hurt me.

I’m NOT sorry that, actually, FUCK YOU lady, I won’t let your words bother me any longer, I’m not sorry that I’ve decided to be happy and positive and carry on doing what I’m doing despite your efforts to hurt me. I’m NOT sorry that you no longer have space inside my head. I’m NOT sorry that I’m choosing the supportive words of my daughters, my sister-in-law, mother-in-law and all the female friends who’ve given me encouragement as the ones I choose to listen to, instead of a woman like you who needs to cut others down in order to lift yourself up, because that’s just sad.

What’s that old quote? I won’t always be fat, but you’ll always be a c*nt. Or something like that…

Yours Sincerely,

The Woman in the Silver Car (with a small dent in the door, which I’ll shortly be reporting to my insurance company, along with your registration plate and the CCTV from the gym…)

Gambling Impact on Family Relationships

Loss of money due to gambling is one of the well-spread social problems in a modern world. A great many well-to-do people start facing material difficulties as soon as betting turns to be more than just an occasional interest. It may not be that strongly pronounced when an issue concerns only one person. But when it touches the family values, it appears to be extremely burning. The percentage of families breaking apart because of huge financial problems has reached its peak today. And the greater part of those problems starts with cards/casinos debts.

Drained family budget

The internet is currently full of stories about the lost properties and problems in those families where one or a couple of members are engaged in gambling. Naturally, money crisis is exactly the factor that frighten people, makes them unsure of the future and thus, losing faith in the good. This is what usually happens when a family budget is being gradually bottomed. Many sites, including https://uk.vogueplay.com/ have drawn their raised attention to the issue. Surely, a wise gambler knows that the money for betting needs to be kept apart from the money for living. But what if one has no measure? One can’t fight the addiction without a serious outer help.

Isolation and deep depression

It’s no secret that the gambling problems find their reflections in personal dramas. Often an individual becomes ashamed of oneself, tending to isolate from the entire world in his/her attempts to finally find inner piece. This is where the misunderstanding usually occurs and where family relations start to crack.

Health issues

The depression and stress one experiences due to losses in cards or slots games are in most cases a direct way to health conditions, both mental and physical. The cardiovascular

 system takes the main damage here. A raised heart rate and blood pressure might seem not that alarming signs at first yet, if nothing’s done, those will lead to much more severe consequences. In terms of the family relationships, this may result in a serious libido reduction.

Anxiety, poor sleep, endless concerns and headaches are the other symptoms of a gambling addiction. A person gets used to living in a constant stress and, as the result, shortens the time allotted to him/her… Not to mention the heart attacks some people are subjected to when the stakes are high.

Family meltdowns

 When it comes to addiction matters one can’t possibly neglect such fact as family quarrels. The despair might have quite a number of forms and the worst of it is violence. So many people ended up in jail after taking just one rush act… Control is the thing one should never lose! Money comes and money goes but your family is what God’s prepared for you. Always remember that and never do harm to your dearest ones! Alas, some still break these principles when the family values stay far behind in the background. However, they always change their attitude after life teaches them a lesson the hard way.