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The Healing Power of Looking Forward

The future seems bleak right now. The present ain’t so rosy either. Yet, even the darkest clouds has a sliver of silver lining. We just need to be of the right mindset to be able to see it. Every time we turn on our TV or scroll through our social media feeds, we’re met with images of tragedy and prognostications of doom and gloom. In this context is it any wonder that we’re all cooped up feeling depressed, anxious and frustrated? We’re naturally inclined to catastrophise- to jump to the worst case scenario and feel despair. Believe it or not, it’s a psychological defense mechanism. However, I think we can all agree that it’s not a terribly helpful instinct under the current circumstances.

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We can acknowledge the troubles of the present while still keeping a hopeful eye on the future. Indeed, a healthy sense of anticipation can actually have a profoundly positive effect on our mental state. Having something to look forward to can make your outlook and disposition much cheerier. It can help you to focus on positive outcomes rather than getting dragged into despondency. Here are some things you might want to concentrate on looking forward to…

Helping out in your community

All over the country, we’re seeing a revived sense of community. This is our opportunity to be the best versions of ourselves and help our neighbours, our vulnerable and the NHS. From picking up shopping or medicine for eldely neighbours to sewing scrub bags for nurses, there are lots of ways in which you can help out.

Making improvements around the home

Another thing we can get excited about is making some improvements to the home which might have been put off under different circumstances. Rather than bemoaning how long we have to spend at home, we can focus on making our homes the best they’ve ever been!

Planning your next holiday

One thing’s for sure, the next holiday you take as a family will be the most satisfying and exciting you’ve ever taken. Whether you’re planning on jetting off to a far flung country or simply considering taking the family for a weekend by the beach, the air will smell that much sweeter, the food will taste that much better and your memories will be that much more vivid as a result of your prior quarantine.

Buying a new car

While, of course, we shouldn’t rely on material possessions to make us happy… there’s no denying the satisfaction of treating the family to a big purchase. And looking forward to buying a new car may be something that the whole family can get behind. Head on over to Choosemycar.com to look at car finance deals. You may be surprised by how many great deals there are, even if you don’t have outstanding credit.

Having a fun day out as a family

Finally, it’s not just the big things that we’re all missing. It’s the little things too. We’re all looking forward to spending a day in the park without wondering if we’re spending too long there. Or heading to the cinema on a rainy Saturday afternoon. Or enjoying a meal in a restaurant together. All the little things that make for treasured lifelong memories.

Having something to look forward to doesn’t mean you’re burying your head in the sand or refusing to acknowledge the severity of the situation. It simply means that you’re choosing to hope. And that can make a huge difference to the person you choose to be right now.

5 Ways Families Can Heal Together

The modern family is faced with more challenges than ever. Poverty, natural disasters, addiction, death, and countless other tragedies can result in terse communications, hurt feelings, and lost connections. Thankfully, it is possible to heal your family and re-establish healthy connections, regardless of age, status, or situation. These five solutions can help.

  • Understand the Situation and Its Contributing Factors

Before a family can heal, they must first understand why the fallout occurred, along with any factors that may have contributed to it. Start by first examining the issue at hand. What do you think went wrong, and why? Consider what might help to rectify the situation and develop a reasonable action plan.

As you move forward, preparing to make contact with estranged family members, be sure to develop and maintain realistic expectations. The healing process doesn’t happen overnight. It can be a slow and painstaking process, and setbacks along the way are common.

  • Use the 4-Step Nonviolent Communication Methodology

People are less likely to respond positively if they feel threatened or blamed. Feeling words and use of the four-step nonviolent communication strategy, or NVC, can help reduce the risk of such issues.

The four steps to this communicating with this process are:

1. Observation – “When I hear you say…”

2. Feeling – “I feel…”

3. Voicing Needs – “Because I need/value…”

4. Request – “Would you be willing to…”

It is critical for the speaker to avoid placing blame. The request should also be something that the other person can reasonably do.

  • Accept Accountability and Be Willing to Forgive

When feelings are hurt, people often fail to see their own accountability in a situation. If you truly want to heal your family, it is critical that you do not fall into this trap.

When you apologize for a mistake, don’t follow it with an explanation or excuse. Instead, focus on how your words or actions may have hurt the other person. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Admit that you were wrong, say you’re sorry (and really mean it).

If you’re the one who was hurt, be willing to forgive the other person, even if they aren’t able to accept accountability yet. Just be sure to also develop healthy boundaries for the future.

Using sound scripture and scientific observation, Dr. Henry Wright leads the reader on a journey of personal responsibility” says the team at Be In Health “identifying root causes to specific diseases and offering pathways of healing and wholeness that were never meant to remain dormant in the body of Christ.”

  • Reconnect Through Low-Conflict Activities

Families can be extremely fragile during the initial healing stages. Hurt feelings often simmer below the surface, and even the smallest misunderstanding can cause them to explode.

To avoid further altercations, interactions may need to be limited. Start by planning low-conflict activities, preferably in public places. Major low-ups are less likely to occur when there are potential witnesses.

  • Ask a Professional for Assistance

Not every problem can be fixed, and certainly, there are problems that require the assistance of a professional. If your family is still struggling, or if you suspect that your family’s issues may be too big and complex to fix on your own, consider asking for help.

Family counselors, licensed psychologists and psychiatrists, and even church counselors are all viable options. These individuals serve as mediators, and they can help each person see things through the perspective of other family members.