All About ME! · Music

My Nostalgic Music Playlist #MemoriesInMusic

My Nostalgic Music Playlist #MemoriesInMusicIf there’s one thing which is sure to evoke a lot of memories, it’s hearing a particular song which reminds me of a specific time in my life. Some of those memories are so strongly linked to the song that it can actually remind me of how I felt when I was hearing it, way back when. Chums, the online-fashion retailer have recently created a campaign to search for Memories in Music to help people bring the happier days back to life. With this in mind, I thought I’d share some of my most nostalgic songs for you:

Rhiannon – Fleetwood Mac

When I was 6, my Mum and Dad split up, and my Mum and I moved in with her parents for a while. We shared a set of bunkbeds in their small second bedroom and although it was cramped, I was happy. Mum had job in a bar and I’d sit with her in the evening, watching her get ready, listening to her music – the smell of hairspray reminds me of this, too! Mum had her stereo and a load of vinyl in our room, and one of her favourite bands was Fleetwood Mac (she had a bit of a Stevie Nicks vibe going on in the late 80s!) and Rhiannon reminds me so much of this time.

Mmmbop – Hanson

Anyone who knows me well knows that I was a MASSIVE Hanson fan when I was younger. When Mmmbop came out, I immediately fell in love and even to this day, I feel transported back to a really happy time when I hear it. My whole bedroom was covered in Hanson posters, including the ceiling, and I used to spend Saturday mornings sitting by the TV with a blank tape in the VHS, waiting to hit record, just in case they came on the telly!

Rewind – Craig David

When I was about 15, my friends and I would spend every Friday night at “Intrigue”, an under 18’s Nappy Night, located in an old bingo hall. We’d get dressed up in what were, looking back, some rather over-the-top outfits (a powder blue lace dress, white Wonderbra and a white feather boa was a personal fave, and NO, my mother did NOT know I was going out dressed like that!) and feel like we were going to a proper nightclub. UK Garage was massive around this time, and this song was a particular fave…still is, if I’m totally honest! It’s like my guilty music pleasure.

Everlong – Foo Fighters

I’ve loved Foo Fighters since the first time my friend Steven played The Colour and The Shape to me, back in the late 90’s, but Everlong has always been my favourite. When Husband and I met, one of the things we immediately bonded over was music, especially Everlong. We’d been together just a few months when we saw Foo Fighters play in Hyde Park on the day after my 22nd birthday, and it’s been something that brings back amazing memories ever since.

God Only Knows – The Beach Boys

Another song that is special to Husband and I is “God Only Knows” by The Beach Boys. When I was around 9, my family and I lived in a house which was just down the road from a second-hand record shop and it became routine for me to go there on a Saturday morning and buy a record. I started collecting vinyl and Pet Sounds was a personal fave. In those early days of our relationship, when we’d sit and talk for hours, learning about each other, I found out that Husband was a huge Beach Boys fan when he was a kid too. Back in September 2016, we were lucky enough to get tickets to see Brian Wilson perform at a local venue, and it was one of the most amazing experiences that Husband and I have ever had – it’s something I’ll remember until I’m old and grey.

What are your #MemoriesInMusic? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

Family

How To Build A Healthy Family – Follow These 6 Steps

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If you were able to time-travel and you asked someone who lived in 1900, what their main priority in life is; they would probably say “Having a healthy family.” If you asked someone in 1940, 1960, or 2010 the same question, you would probably get the same answer. Having a healthy family has always been a top priority. But, today’s family is nothing like the family in 1900 or 1950. We, as society changed our concept of what having a healthy family means.

The old days and the old ways

In the past, it was expected that the male partner would go to work every day and the female partner would stay home to take care of the children, home, and the needs of every member of the family. The female was not expected to get a higher education, to have a career, or to step outside of her defined lines.

Today’s families are different. A family unit may be a traditional male and female. The family may be a single parent, same-sex partners, grandparents raising children or adopted children. A  family is defined by the people who love each other, support each other and nurture each other.

All people have the right to choose if they want to further their education, have a career, or dedicate themselves to the raising of children. To put it bluntly, we each have a right to create our version of a happy, and healthy family.

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6 Fundamental properties all healthy families need

No matter how you choose to live your life and raise your family, there are some basics that hold true for all healthy families. We are going to list them for you below.

 

 

  • Leadership

 

Each member of your family has a particular position. You adore your child, but you cannot give your child a position of authority. Parents must be the leadership of the family. Parents must set the standards for the family and enforce the rules that are needed to be safe and healthy. Adults should adult in private and stand together when an issue arises. This gives children the feeling of security.

 

  • Family hobbies

 

A family needs to have something that you do as a unit. It can be something like hiking, biking, or planting a flower garden. Teaching your child how planting something like Bee Balm Plants which you can later use for making salads or dry the leaves and make your kids a healthy and aromatic tea.

 

  • Health

 

From an early age children need to be taught how to eat, exercise, and the impact of what they put in their bodies does for them. They learn from you. However, they are children. When there is a holiday, party, or event coming up that will feature candy; you do not want your child to feel like they cannot enjoy the event. Be proactive. Keep a supply of sugar-free lollipops in bulk in your home. Your child and their friends will enjoy their treats and they don’t need to know they are sugar-free.

 

  • Communication and compassion

 

It is important to establish open communication with your children. But, be careful not to dismiss their concerns as trivial. They may seem small to you, but in their world, it is important to respect that.

 

  • Attention

 

Many families have a superstar. One of the kids always aces the tests, hits the home-run, and looks great in anything they put on. Parents do not mean to ignore the other children, but it happens. It is important that each and every person has equal time in the spotlight. Point out each child’s strengths and attributes.

 

  • Independence

 

As important as it is to come together, having alone time is a part of life. You need it as an adult and your child needs it in smaller doses so they will grow. They will learn to entertain themselves. They will learn to trust their instincts. They will learn to stand on their own two feet. You owe it to your children to teach them to stand on their own. They are only children a little while. It is your job to teach them to become self-sufficient adults.

As stated, you have a right to create the family you want. Our suggestions are just that. They are suggestions for you to consider. You may want to change them or replace them. Create your roadmap to success. Remember, there are little people following your every move.

Relationships

The 8 Secrets To A Happy Marriage

What is it that makes a successful marriage? Every marriage is different and has different successes and challenges. For some marriages the challenge might balancing raising children with respective careers. For others it might be their husband’s insomnia or for some it might be that the wife seems permanently attached to her mobile phone – especially true of mummy bloggers.  However, before we all  get on the phone to Austin Kemp Divorce Solicitors we need to take the time to ask ourselves what is it that makes some people have a successful marriage? Are they simply lucky or is there more to it than that? Does the success of a marriage depend on how we respond to these challenges?  We all know some “smug marrieds”. The couple who seemingly have the perfect marriage. But can any marriage really be that perfect? Do any of us really know what goes on behind that closed front door? For all we know that perfect married couple could be having weekly therapy sessions and that is why their marriage really works.

Is marriage therapy the secret to a successful marriage? Not according to this article which claims to know the secrets for a happy marriage.

What Are The Secrets To A Happy Marriage?

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1) Never change each other. Yes, in theory but then sometimes we all need to encourage change. If a woman was married to a man who dropped his socks on the floor and left the toilet seat up, then she would definitely be trying to change him!  Being a wife does not make a woman a maid. The husband might also find that they are bought the classic book  ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’

2) Compliment them. We all love to receive a compliment and we should be giving them too. Compliments are even more important when it comes to parenting little ones. Parenting is a tough gig and one where we all need plenty of compliments and reassurance.

3) Revisit the past. Sometimes a trip down memory lane can be good. It can also be a good laugh to go through some of your old photos from the past. Even the ones where you are both sporting rather dubious haircuts!

4) Always listen to each other. YES! Although, we can all be guilty of switching off. Sometimes we have a million things going on in our brain and we are trying to get lots of jobs done. We then realise that we haven’t listened to anything that has been said to us. Whoops. On the other-hand it drives us all insane if we think that our husbands aren’t listening to us. There are only so many times we are prepared to ask the same question, again and again….!  We are all guilty of not always listening.

5) Don’t get comfortable. It seems that suggestion being made here is that we shouldn’t be happy to laze around together watching Netflix. Do they not realise that the saying “Netflix and chill” (as in relax, not the other meaning) is popular amongst sleep-deprived parents for a reason. The article implies that women should probably be heading down to Ann Summers for some sexy lingerie. It’s autumn and the weather is getting a bit chilly and most of the female population would prefer getting comfy in their Marks & Spencer pjs, Netflix, a cup of tea and some chocolates. That is the secret to a happy marriage.

6) Do chores together. Yes, we aren’t in the 1950s anymore. Marriage should always be about equality. The serial housework-avoiders amongst us would  prefer it even more if they won the lottery and then they could pay for a cleaner to do the chores for them. That would make for a very happy marriage!

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7) Workout together. Does any married couple want to see their wife or husband grunting and sweating all over the gym floor? Workout time is far better when done alone!

8) Take a weekly walk. It doesn’t make it clear if this involves walking to your local pub, that is a weekly walk most parents would be very happy to take. A weekly walk is probably a good idea but for parents it is less romantic walk for two, and more like an endurance test because you have the whole family in tow.

What do you think? Do you agree that these really are the 8 secrets to a happy marriage? Perhaps you know the real secret to a happy marriage…

Happiness · Health

Don’t Let Anything Stop You from Getting Back to Your Normal

Have you not been feeling yourself as of late? Have you, for whatever reason, felt a bit different to how you normally feel? Whether it’s a mental or a physical plight that is making you feel a bit off you can rest assured that there is help out there. There are services that willing and waiting to help you. All you have to do is accept their help.

If your physical wellbeing is in fact bringing you down, and causing you a great discomfort at that, then why stand for it any longer? There are host of professional services out there just waiting to right any wrongs in your body, so use them! You don’t have to spend all of your hard earned cash on bills, food and treats for your family, you know. It is absolutely not a waste of money to spend your cash on a bout of treatment for YOUR aches and pains. Whether this be in the form of a local chiropractor in order to ease your back and neck troubles or a professional massage parlour to relax your muscles, you do it. There’s no point continuing with your everyday life if you feel any discomfort, and there’s no need to do so either. No matter how big you think your problem is you should get it sorted in order to retain the standard of living that you deserve. Even the slightest of pains can be treated, and they really should be before they escalate any further.

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There’s also no shame in taking care of your appearance if that does indeed ever make you feel anything less than normal. Now, you can’t hide your face away at all times which means you do have to subject it to things that will damage it. But you can still take care of your skin, you know. Similarly, you can’t realistically protect your mind from being stretched or frazzled at some points in the day if you live a hectic life. Sometimes life will throw stressful situations your way which will leave you feeling less than normal. But what’s stopping you from getting back to normal once the ordeal is over? If you are feeling nowhere near 100% in your own mind you should never be tentative to tell others. You should never be afraid to say ‘I won’t be coming out tonight’ if you don’t feel mentally up to it. Mental health is sometimes not given the care it deserves, so why don’t you buck the trend by bettering your mental wellbeing.

Mental health

Everybody deserves to feel brilliant every single day. Granted, there are a load of everyday plights that seemingly try their best to stop this. But it’s not about stopping with these plights it’s about managing them to suit you. For example, you can’t stop taking your kids to school in the winter and subjecting your face to the blistering winds. You can, however, fight the effects caused by these winds and keep your skin ‘normal’. Whatever ‘normal’ is for you, you should never let anything stop you from getting back to it!

 

All About ME!

A Healthy Mum Means A Happy Family

When you’re a full-time working mum, it’s easy for things to slip through the cracks. Usually, most of your attention is focused on your kids, and perhaps, that’s the way it should be. The problem is that by always putting your kids first, you can forget to look after yourself. Working full time is stressful when you’re a mum, and you don’t want to lose your quality of life because you haven’t been looking after your own health. Here are some of the things that you need to think about to stay healthy when you’re working.

Cut Out The Stress

Do Not Worry

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By far one of the greatest dangers to your health is stress. Stress can have a number of different effects on the body. It has even been connected to the development of certain types of cancer. As such, you need to do everything you can to reduce stress in your working life. Breathing exercises are a simple way to do this. If you feel yourself getting stressed, just count to ten while breathing in deeply. As you let it out, you should find your stress levels are quickly diminished.

Sleep is important for regulating stress and tension too. Make sure you’re doing everything possible to get those eight hours that you need. To do this, you can think about writing before bed. This will help you deal with some of the thoughts swirling around your mind that could ultimately keep you up until the late hours.

Don’t Put Yourself In Harm’s Way

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There will be situations where you could put your health at risk simply by completing your job, and a simple example would be RSI. It’s estimated that twenty percent of the UK workforce deal with some form of RSI or repetitive strain injury. It is typically caused by typing for long periods without breaks. If you suffer from this, you may eligible for an injury claim. You might want to look into PISD claims for injury because your employer is accountable for any injury you suffer from while at work. Don’t forget, even the smallest injury can impact your mental and physical health.

Eat Well

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By eating a healthy diet, you can look after your mood, your mind and your body. You’ll keep your body strong, and it will be able to deal with the pressures of the day. Eating a good, wholesome diet filled with fruit and vegetables has also been shown to elevate mood and allow people to tackle problems more effectively. You don’t have to be a fitness nut to accomplish this either. Balancing your diet with the five recommend a day is enough. Another way you can really change the way you live to be more healthier, is to go to the gym atleast a few times a week, when doing this you may need some sport supplements. Take a look at some of the best on the market at Supplements Direct.

Take A Little Time

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Last but not least, every once in awhile you should make sure  you are taking some time for yourself. This could be anything from one day a week to twenty minutes every day. During this time forget the difficult situations around you and relax. Read a book, take a nap or just have a lovely soak in the bath. This will give your body and your mind the time it needs to recharge and keep you healthy.