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Helping Children Through a Divorce

Helping Children Through a DivorceIf two people no longer wish to remain together, that is their business. Divorces can, at times, be messy and complicated. A couple who once felt nothing but love and admiration may now only feel resentment and spite towards their former other half. It is known for individuals to get hurt quite often during the divorce process. 

Yet, in all this, it can sometimes be the children who bear the brunt of the pain of their parents’ lost love. Child custody rights when filing for divorce can be one of the issues that causes the most friction, particularly when children are made to feel like they must choose between one parent or the other.

Whether you are one of the parents, a relative, or even a family friend, there are multiple ways in which you can help children get through the divorce process with as little trauma as possible.

Offer to Babysit

If you are an outsider in the divorce, looking after the child while the parents are at a mediation, or in court itself, can take a weight off of everyone’s shoulders. This way, children do not have to be exposed to the divorce process, and parents can take some time to decompress afterwards to limit the amount of emotional strain that their children are exposed to.  

Fun activities during this time can also help to take the child’s mind off of how their world has been disrupted, which can be great for their wellbeing. 

Open Conversation

Communicating with children can be key. Their parents may be struggling with their own emotions and stresses and, therefore, be less available to the needs of their offspring. This can be a crucial time for other trusted adults to step up and be there for these vulnerable young people. Building trust and opening communications regarding the children’s thoughts and feelings can help them to work through their feelings in a safe and healthy way. 

Keep Bickering Away

If you are the child’s parent, you may be concerned about how your upcoming divorce is affecting them. One of the crucial ways of limiting their distress is to avoid discussing the divorce around them. Likewise, ensure that you and your former partner do not speak ill of the other around the children, as this may put them in an uncomfortable position. 

Unless there is a legitimate reason for doing so, such as a parent threatening or endangering the child, there is also no reason that they should be privy to the real reason behind the divorce. A child does not need to know about any adultery, or other marital issues, and relationships between both parents and their children should be maintained wherever possible. However, you shouldn’t just brush it under the carpet – explain to them what is happening in the simplest form and ensure they know it’s not their fault.

Going through a divorce can be stressful for anyone involved, but it is crucial that children are protected from as much of the emotional turmoil as possible. Likewise, it is key that they are reassured, as often as they need, that they are not at fault, and that they are loved. 

Lockdown: Keeping Your Relationship Alive

Keeping Your Relationship Alive During LockdownThere’s no denying the fact that lockdown is making things feel pretty bizarre for most of us at the moment. Families are spending more time together than ever, thanks to school closures and isolation measures to protect us all during the coronavirus outbreak, and adult realtionships are being strained in many cases. Between spending 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the same space and the kids being around ALL. THE. TIME, finding time to be intimate is one of the hardest things about “The Current Situation” (as it’s formally known in most households!).

With this in mind, I thought I’d share with you five tips for keeping the spark going in your relationship so that quarantine doesn’t have a negative effect on your intimate life:

Sexting

While whispering sweet nothings might be tricky when you’ve got little ears around all the time (what is with their hearing, as well? They’re like bats, until you mention tidying!), sending your partner a message containing some steamy content is the perfect solution. Install an encrypted app like Signal and reserve it solely for sexting with your other half. As well as helping to build tension, you’ll get a little jolt of excitement every time you see a message from your chosen private app.

Lockdown Lingerie

If you’re aything like us, you’re probably spending most of your time in pyjamas or loungewear, neither of which are known for their sexiness! Why not invest in some sexy lingerie sets from Steamy Genie? Even if you slip them on UNDER your comfies, a glance of something sexy and lacy underneath your flannel P.J.s will let your partner know you’re still thinking about your provate times.

Try to Have a Routine

Okay, so while I’m not suggesting a sex schedule (is there anything less sexy?!), having a proper routine can really help you to find time to be intimate. Lots of the people I know have thrown the normal routine to the wind and the kids are going to bed later, waking up late and not really sticking to any sort of timings. Make sure the kids eat dinner, have a bath and get to bed at a more reasonable time and you’ll find yourselves with much more time to dedicate to each other in the evenings.

Try Something New

I think we can all admit that everything is SO far from normal right now, so instead of bucking against this, why not go with it and try something new during lockdown? We all have those little curiosities that we’ve thought about trying but just haven’t got round to mentioning to our partners – well, there’s never been a better time to try it! Just don’t go TOO crazy, as now is really not the time to end up in A&E with a sex injury!

Tidy Up and Have a Date

We’re all probably quite sick of our surroundings at the moment, and our motivation for housework can be tested when it seems like no sooner do we tidy than the place is a mess again. Work together to get the house back to being spotless and then enjoy the spoils of your labour by having a date night. Cook a meal together, watch a movie and just spend some time enjoying each other, instead of sitting in front of the TV or games console while the other uses their smartphone!

8 Naughty Places To Use A Remote Vibrator

Most of the time we use our sex toys in bed or bedroom. Getting a toy with remote control is convenient, and they can unshackle us from the confines of the bedroom. These sleek vibrators are discreet and can be controlled from a distance going from a few feet to thousands of miles. Whether its regular public play or connecting with a long-distance partner, when you buy a good remote controlled vibrator, you open a world of possibilities.

8 Unlikely Places For Fun With A Remote Vibrator

1. While On A Picnic

Picture this: A nice open field, mmhmm. Laying out a picnic blanket and sitting together mmhmm. Doing all those picnic-y things. A picnic is a fun place to use a remote vibrator. It is also a good place for those who are starting out with public play. The open area or wide fields can afford some privacy for those who want to ease-in into the world of public play.

2. On A Roller Coaster

Adrenaline rushing and the roller coaster going. Thats a combo you never knew you wanted! Crank it up for power and enjoy yourself as you go through the thrill of the roller coaster and a powerful vibrator! Reese Witherspoon did it better, but hey, not all of us get to go on rides with Mark Wahlberg!

3. At The Movie Theater

Dont be afraid of having a bit of fun at the movie theater. A movie with a good background score is ideal to cover the small noise the vibrator is going to make. Its unlikely to be super obvious but be sure to keep the noise in check.

All those hot, romantic scenes in the movie just got all the more hotter and better. It goes without saying be responsible and sensitive to other moviegoers. If you feel as if youre attracting too much attention, stop and let things cool down. Choosing a time when there are fewer cinemagoers around can be super helpful.

4. At Work

You can love your job, but there are still some dull moments. Slogging through the day can get tough if theres not much happening. Or maybe it’s one of those boring meetings where Steve wont stop droning. Time to buzz out into the pleasure zone and have a good time all by yourself. Control the vibrator yourself, or if your partner is anywhere close, let them hold the reins.

Fair warning, this is not for the public play beginner. A misplaced moan, noise, or some other telltale sign could reflect poorly. Discretion and knowing when to start or stop the action are the necessary parts of public play.

5. Did Someone Say A Big Box Store?

Hey, what else am I going to do while looking at the shelves for groceries and random stuff? Getting a remote vibrator into the action makes things fun. Get your partner to control it and youll both have an inside joke while walking the aisles of a big box store. Clicking a few pics can be a good idea for a laugh later. Theres got to be a reason why you were looking so lustily at a bag of chips!

6. Long Distance Action Over The Internet

Lovers separated by distance dont need to lose touch of intimacy. Modern remote vibrators can be controlled over a distance of thousands of miles, so theres a closer sense of intimacy. All this type of vibrators need is that you (and your partner) have smartphones with good internet connectivity.

Connect the vibrator to your phone and app, then share controls with your partner. The sexy times with Skype or FaceTime just got a lot more interesting! A lot of this action is supposed to be in your bedroom, but you can take it to public play as well. Let your long-distance partner control the vibrator while you go about your day. Its fun for a hot time.

Another great option is using paired-play sex toys. In this case, toys connect over the internet and relevant apps. The idea is to have both the toys in sync. So as one toy moves, the other shows a similar response. Its nowhere as good as the real deal, but is a lovely bridge for intimacy over longer distances.

7. Be A Tease On A Date

Who doesnt love a hot date? Let your date know that you have the vibrator on you and youre willing to share. Make them work to get the remote control in their hands and your date will get hotter with anticipation. And that is a powerful aphrodisiac. Mix it up with talking dirty and sexy gestures and you will both find the date getting hotter. Be ready for some hot and steamy action right after the date.

8. At A House Party

How brazen do you want to get? Using a remote vibrator at a house party is that hot, forbidden fruit thats worth the risk. The risk, of course, is letting a vibrator loose in a party full of your close friends, or even family. For a lot of people, the reward for public play gets higher with higher risk, so a house party is worth a shot.

As your friends recount the tales of whatever and go about random gossip, you can make things spicier by having a go at the remote vibrator. Surely everyone will love how you looked so happy while hearing about their little garden or something.

Or, if you want a riskier challenge, take it to Thanksgiving Dinner. Now that should make things more interesting! Few things get the rush going like the brazen irreverence of turning on the vibrator at the Thanksgiving table. Maybe you can tell everyone how thankful you are for remote control vibrators!

6 Things You Need To Consider When Booking Your Wedding

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Although planning your wedding is an incredibly exciting thing to do, there are lots of little details you need to think of to ensure everything goes without a hitch. Whether you’re planning a small get-together for just your closest friends and family, or you’re planning a massive celebration bringing together everyone you know – ensuring you’ve prepared everything well in advance is vital to having the perfect day.

With that in mind, here are 6 things you need to think of when booking your wedding:

  • What Is Your Budget?

Before you start planning any aspect of your wedding you need to ensure you’ve set yourself a budget. This doesn’t mean setting one budget for the whole wedding but instead looking at things in more detail.

This will ensure that you’re not going to go over your budget before you’ve managed to book everything and put the final details into place. For advice on setting yourself a wedding budget, you can view this handy guide here.

  • Where Do You Want To Get Married?

Although most people choose to get married close to home, other’s prefer to book themselves a destination wedding. Whilst most choose to book their destination wedding on a glorious island, you can pick absolutely anywhere you like. Whether you want to get married in the Scottish Highlands, in a gorgeous American National Park or on a beach in Jamaica, you can make your wedding whatever you want it to be.

  • What Kind Of Venue Would You Like?

Once you’ve decided where you want to get married, you can start to think about your venue. Of course, you’ll need to think about your budget and how many people you want to attend, but the best way to decide which venue you want to book is to visit the venues firsthand. Once you’ve visited a couple you’ll be able to get a good idea of what it is you want, giving you more of a chance of making an informed decision.

  • What Time Of Year Do You Want To Get Married?

Depending on your budget you’ll have to choose whether you want to get married during peak wedding season or not. Whilst the latter is definitely cheaper, often it’s harder to get a hold of services like photography, catering or even a venue that offers a wedding package. Taking the time to work out which option is best for you will help you avoid any surprises during planning.

  • Will You Be Hiring A Band?

Once you’ve started to get the framework in place, you can start planning the details of your wedding, including whether or not you’re going to have a band. Whilst a lot of people opt for having a DJ at their wedding reception, hiring a band could be a great touch. For more information on hiring a wedding band, you can visit this site here.

  • What Kind Of Food Will You Have?

Another important decision to make when planning a wedding is deciding what kind of food you’re going to have. Whilst you can opt to have catering provided for your venue, some couples prefer to have something a little bit more personal. Whether that’s hiring food trucks or creating your own personal menu, you can tailor your food to you.

Are you getting married soon? What did you have to consider before booking your wedding? Let me know in the comments section below.

The 8 Secrets To A Happy Marriage

What is it that makes a successful marriage? Every marriage is different and has different successes and challenges. For some marriages the challenge might balancing raising children with respective careers. For others it might be their husband’s insomnia or for some it might be that the wife seems permanently attached to her mobile phone – especially true of mummy bloggers.  However, before we all  get on the phone to Austin Kemp Divorce Solicitors we need to take the time to ask ourselves what is it that makes some people have a successful marriage? Are they simply lucky or is there more to it than that? Does the success of a marriage depend on how we respond to these challenges?  We all know some “smug marrieds”. The couple who seemingly have the perfect marriage. But can any marriage really be that perfect? Do any of us really know what goes on behind that closed front door? For all we know that perfect married couple could be having weekly therapy sessions and that is why their marriage really works.

Is marriage therapy the secret to a successful marriage? Not according to this article which claims to know the secrets for a happy marriage.

What Are The Secrets To A Happy Marriage?

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1) Never change each other. Yes, in theory but then sometimes we all need to encourage change. If a woman was married to a man who dropped his socks on the floor and left the toilet seat up, then she would definitely be trying to change him!  Being a wife does not make a woman a maid. The husband might also find that they are bought the classic book  ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’

2) Compliment them. We all love to receive a compliment and we should be giving them too. Compliments are even more important when it comes to parenting little ones. Parenting is a tough gig and one where we all need plenty of compliments and reassurance.

3) Revisit the past. Sometimes a trip down memory lane can be good. It can also be a good laugh to go through some of your old photos from the past. Even the ones where you are both sporting rather dubious haircuts!

4) Always listen to each other. YES! Although, we can all be guilty of switching off. Sometimes we have a million things going on in our brain and we are trying to get lots of jobs done. We then realise that we haven’t listened to anything that has been said to us. Whoops. On the other-hand it drives us all insane if we think that our husbands aren’t listening to us. There are only so many times we are prepared to ask the same question, again and again….!  We are all guilty of not always listening.

5) Don’t get comfortable. It seems that suggestion being made here is that we shouldn’t be happy to laze around together watching Netflix. Do they not realise that the saying “Netflix and chill” (as in relax, not the other meaning) is popular amongst sleep-deprived parents for a reason. The article implies that women should probably be heading down to Ann Summers for some sexy lingerie. It’s autumn and the weather is getting a bit chilly and most of the female population would prefer getting comfy in their Marks & Spencer pjs, Netflix, a cup of tea and some chocolates. That is the secret to a happy marriage.

6) Do chores together. Yes, we aren’t in the 1950s anymore. Marriage should always be about equality. The serial housework-avoiders amongst us would  prefer it even more if they won the lottery and then they could pay for a cleaner to do the chores for them. That would make for a very happy marriage!

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7) Workout together. Does any married couple want to see their wife or husband grunting and sweating all over the gym floor? Workout time is far better when done alone!

8) Take a weekly walk. It doesn’t make it clear if this involves walking to your local pub, that is a weekly walk most parents would be very happy to take. A weekly walk is probably a good idea but for parents it is less romantic walk for two, and more like an endurance test because you have the whole family in tow.

What do you think? Do you agree that these really are the 8 secrets to a happy marriage? Perhaps you know the real secret to a happy marriage…

Forget Your Wedding Day Jitters: 10 Signs That He Really Is The Man For You

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Most people get nervous before the wedding, and it’s a perfectly normal reaction. Nagging doubts creep in. Is he the man for me? Does he love me? Am I doing the right thing? Should you be about to get married, you have probably experienced some of those pre-wedding jitters yourself. Considering the wedding day is one of the biggest days of your life, you don’t want to waste your time walking down the aisle with the wrong guy.

We can’t tell you if you’re making the right decision or not. However, it’s still good to remind yourself why you’re marrying the guy you have chosen. Here are ten signs leading up to the wedding that should indicate he really is the guy for you.

1. Your engagement ring is closer to something from 77 Diamonds than anything resembling a novelty gift from a Christmas cracker. When he is willing to spend his hard earned money on you, it’s a good sign that he’s probably a keeper!

2. He can’t stop talking about the wedding and is as excited as you are about the big day. From looking at wedding catalogues to watching wedding programmes on tv, he literally can’t contain himself when it comes to thinking about your forthcoming nuptials.

3. Despite being allergic to horses, he is still going along with your plans for a horse-drawn carriage on the big day. He is sacrificing his own needs for your idea of a dream wedding.

4. Nobody else is convinced about your paper bouquet idea, but he is behind your creativity 100%. Respecting your ideas even when other people don’t is a sure fire way of knowing he cares about your feelings.

5. He surprises you every day with a romantic gesture. A bunch of flowers one day, a box of chocolates the next. The next day…well, you will just have to wait and see.

6. He knows how you’re feeling, despite your emotional mood swings. Feeling stressed? He’s there to calm your worries. Feeling down? He’s there with a comforting word and a cuddle. Need to be left alone for awhile? He respects your space. He knows you!

7. Despite having a bad day himself, he will still listen to your woes before telling you about his own. Not only does he listen, but he asks questions, pays attention, and genuinely seems to care.

8. He still wants to marry you, despite knowing all of your deepest, darkest secrets. What’s more, he wouldn’t tell another living soul, not even his mother!

9. Despite not liking some of your friends, he is willing to put up with them just to be in your company and has even let you reserve seats for them at the wedding.

10. He tells you he loves you on a daily basis. Sentimental? Maybe. Reassuring? Definitely!

If your guy lives up to each of those signs, then he is bordering on perfect, so don’t worry if you can’t relate to all of them. Provided your husband-to-be shows you love and care on a daily basis, then you should have no reason to worry about the big day. We wish you every happiness!

 


Husband and I Take a #CouplesQuiz for Bed Guru @bedguru

This weekend is my 33rd birthday and I realised that this means that Husband and I have been together for a third of my life, which is pretty damn significant in this day and age. We don’t claim to have a “perfect” relationship (is there even such a thing?) but the fact that we’ve lasted this long is pretty damn impressive when you consider how common divorce is these days (and how difficult I am to live with!).

Just recently, Bed Guru got in touch to ask us to collaborate with them and take a Couples Quiz as part of their campaign to show that couples who sleep in the same bed don’t always have the same needs in terms of sleep comfort. Bed Guru is an online bed retailer who are sleep specialists, they understand that no two people share the same sleeping requirements and see it not just as a belief but an obligation to ensure that everybody gets a great night’s sleep!

They sent us a list of questions to answer, which we did independently of each other and here’s what the outcome was! (Husband’s answers are RED, mine are TURQUOISE)

1)      How did you meet?

We met through mutual friends although it turned out we’d been drinking in the same places for years and our paths had never crossed.

Through friends

2)      How long have you known each other?

4139 days, to be precise! 11  years and 4 months – we got married after knowing each other just 6 months.

11 and a bit years.

3)      What do you do to keep the love alive?

When you’ve got kids, it can be hard to find time as a couple but we make sure we do things together as regularly as we can, even if that means going for a walk or watching the boxing together.

We don’t need to do anything to ‘keep it alive’. 

4)      What are your partners pet peeves?

He hates dishonesty more than anything else.

Loud chewing, impoliteness (especially on the road), poor time-keeping, Tories.

5)      What do you love the most about each other?

We have a really similar sense of humour and makes jokes with one another than no-one else would ever get! We like a lot of the same things but also learn a lot from each other. We make a good team and he’s always got my back. 

Kindness. 

6)      What is the most memorable gift you have received from your partner?

That is a hard one for me to answer because he’s RIDICULOUSLY good at buying me gifts! I’m literally typing this out on on the laptop he bought be for my birthday whilst wearing the Pandora bracelet I’ve wanted for months that he also surprised me with. The best gift of all though was the vintage working Teddy Ruxpin that he sourced from America and had shipped over. He knew it was a toy I’d wanted as a child and never got so he went to all that effort to get it for me, which meant so, so much to me.

Not strictly a ‘gift’ but the best thing I’ve ever received is my children.

7)      What is your favourite memory as a couple?

Oh gosh, that’s difficult too! Looking out of the window of the seaplane that took us to the Maldives and seeing the islands dotted through the Indian Ocean…adopting Chuck…having our babies…seeing some of our favourite bands and comedians together, as well as watching Liverpool play at Anfield.

The births of our children. The day we adopted our dog. Our wedding and honeymoon…(the 4-1 drubbing of West Brom we took our eldest to at Anfield, it was her first game).

8)      What is the most key component of your relationship? e.g. trust, loyalty etc

Trust. Nothing lasts without trust.

Honesty, caring nature, trustworthiness.

9)      Where is your dream destination for a couple’s holiday?

Back to the Maldives, maybe?! Or anywhere Scandinavian.

Iceland.

10)   What are your favourite things to do as a couple?

Going to Ikea 😉

Go out to eat, go to the cinema, talk.

I think our answers show that we’re pretty compatible actually, and I laughed out loud when I read Husband’s assesment of my pet peeves because they are SO spot on! The irony is, Husband and I have often said that we’re totally incompatible in terms of sleep because he likes a memory foam mattress and I find them uncomfortable, so we’ve often joked about getting two totally different single mattresses and pushing them together so that we an each be comfortable on our own sides – but with Bed Guru’s couples mattresses we wouldn’t need to do this as their mattresses can be separately zoned.

Are you and your partner sleep compatible? Leave me a comment below.

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Creative Date Ideas You’re Underestimating

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Any sort of date should be a fun date, but why not consider something a bit unconventional? Here’s a quick list of creative date ideas that you and your partner shouldn’t underestimate. The less well-worn the path of your date is, the more memorable it will be!

Try a new recipe

Find a recipe that you’ve never tried before and cook it together. The results may not be perfect, but working together on something like this will definitely create interesting memories! Besides, it could be argued that a recipe that doesn’t come out perfectly can actually make the whole thing a bit more fun. Try looking for recipes in diets that you don’t follow – for example, if you eat meat, then be adventurous and try a vegan dish.

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Watch a strange film

A lot of couples go out and watch the latest blockbusters or romantic comedies. But why not find an independent cinema in a less obvious location and watching some arthouse flick or documentary film? You may discover new areas of cinematic interest for the both of you. These sorts of films are also more likely to produce engaging conversation afterwards. As fun as I’m sure Thor 3 will be, how likely is it that you’ll both have anything much to say afterwards other than “that was awesome!”?

Go to a jazz bar

Most cities these days have a jazz bar hidden away somewhere, even though many people think that jazz bars are long-forgotten relics that are nowhere to be found these days. A jazz night is a classic date night idea, but it’s in no way antiquated. Some bars will play old-time stuff, but many will feature musicians playing new and original material – and modern jazz still continues to be as fun and adventurous as it always was. Get some formal wear ready – find a nice suit or a long evening dress online – and search for a nearby jazz bar for a truly different evening.

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Have a games night

People are always underestimating the power of board games. Of course, it could be argued that board games are best played in a group. But there are actually a bunch of board games out there that are perfectly fun with two people. Try out the best board games for couples – or, if you’re really not into the board game scene, consider taking turns with a video game.

Have a picnic

Sure, you could have a nice lunch indoors. Or you could go to a restaurant, which is where most couples will go if they want to have a date that features food. But why not save a bunch of money (those restaurants are not kind to your wallet, after all) and have a picnic? The season is right for it, after all. (Or, at least, it’s getting there.) Be careful about your wine selection, though – you don’t want to end up drinking too much in a public field! If you really feel like having a wine-heavy picnic, then even a back garden picnic can be amazing.

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Walk the dog

A lot of dog owners tend to see walking the dog as a pretty banal daily duty. Sure, when you first get the dog it can be pretty exciting, but over time it tends to be something just one person in the household does, with people often taking it in turns just like any other chore. But consider actually going on a long walk together with your dog. And if you don’t have a dog, offer to walk your friend’s dog, or consider searching for people online who need the occasional dog walker.

Go for a hot air balloon ride

Not for those afraid of heights! This is another ‘classic’ date idea that seems to be grossly underused these days. As long as there’s a big enough field nearby, you can probably find a business nearby that offers hot air balloon rides for couples. Remember that there will probably be someone else in the basket with you, though, unless one of you happens to be a licensed air balloon pilot!

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Recreate your first date

Assuming that you’ve been with your partner for some time, it may be a good idea to try recreating your first date. Go to the same restaurant or watch the film you first saw together. You can recreate this at home, too – cook the same meals you ate that night and rent the same film you saw, or see if you can find it on Netflix. A trip down memory lane can really bring back some sparks.

Smarten Up Your Man!

man-at-barberBeing a woman in her thirties with two kids means that I spend an inordinate amount of time listening to other women moan about the men in their lives (come on, it’s a fact of life that MOST women moan about their fellas). Obviously, there’s the usual moans about how they don’t do enough housework or they spend too much time with their mates, but I’ve also heard other women moan about how their man is a bit of a scruff! With that in mind, I thought I’d take a look at some gentle ways you can help your bloke to smarten up a bit…so that I don’t have to listen to you moan anymore!! 😉

Send Him to The Barber

A lot of men are growing long hair and bushy beards these days and think it’s an excuse to avoid grooming altogether, but in my humble opinion beards and long hair require just as much care if not MORE if you don’t want to look like a scarecrow. Why not find a local barber who does beard care and buy your man a voucher for a session? He’ll look smarter and you’ll find his beard FAR softer to kiss!

Take Him Shopping

A lot of men don’t invest in their clothes, but buying decent men’s desinger clothes doesn’t have to be a chore. Why not spend an evening looking online and encouraging him to treat himself to some new threads? He’ll get to look better and you’ll get to veto anything that you hate!

Get Him a Gym Subscription

Okay, this one may sound a little insensitive and I guarantee if I read a blog written by a man suggesting other men force their WAGS into the gym, I’d be incandescent. But I don’t mean it in a “tell him to lose weight” way – going to the gym, even if it’s just to give him an outlet for his energy, can be a great way to improve self-esteem and can also work wonders on a person’s mental health.

Send Him to The Pub!

If you’ve got a bloke who goes out every week without fail, I can understand how this suggestion might seem a bit of a joke, but if your bloke rarely goes out, an evening at the pub might be just what he needs to help him decompress. Giving him the change to chat to his mates and forget his worries will win you some brownie points and, more to the point, give him an excuse to get dressed in something other than work clothes or loungewear!

Give Him Some Attention

Just like us ladies, bloke often don’t see the point in getting dressed up or taking care of their appearance if there’s no one to appreciate it. Make sure you remind your bloke how much you fancy him and give him plenty of compliments on occasions when he does get dressed up to make him feel appreciated and he’ll likely make more effort in the future.

How to Make Your Wedding Day Different


For a while, in my mid-twenties, it seemed like my social media timelines were showing a different wedding every week. Husband and I went abroad and got married by ourselves and I wouldn’t change that for the world, but if I did organise a wedding here in the UK, there are definitely a few things that I’d love to have on the Big Day to make it a little different. Here’s a few ideas:

Vintage Rings

Husband and I planned our wedding in the space of about two weeks, so some of the details were a case of what we could get in the time we had. One thing I really like the idea of is vintage wedding and engagement rings. They often have so much more character and I love the thought of my ring having a story before it found it was to me.

Non-wedding wedding dress

Whilst planning our wedding, I realised that the whole “long white gown” thing was just SO not me, and I ended up buying a dress from a high street shop, which just so happened to be perfect for getting married on a tropical beach. Looking around at dresses which aren’t specifically wedding dresses could really inspire you in terms of styles and colours and would probably save you an absolute fortune, too.

Venue

There are so many amazing places to get married, both here in the UK and abroad and it’s really worth taking a look around to find one you love. If you aren’t the traditional type, you could find somewhere super fun for your reception – I know someone who hired a vintage bowling alley for their reception and they served beer and hotdogs! Literally THE most fun and memorable wedding reception ever!

Shoes

If you’re wearing a long dress, I really LOVE it when brides wear shoes that you absolutely wouldn’t expect to see underneath. Giving a flash of some bejewelled Converse All-Stars will give a glimpse of your personality and will also allow you to be really comfortable all day, too.

Photography

Wedding photography is BIG business and can take up one of the largest chunks of your budget. Choosing a photographer is about more than their photos, it’s about finding someone who really GETS you so that they can capture you in the exact light that you’re hoping for. Getting to know your photographer before the day can make all the difference and thinking outside the box, in terms of the actual shots, is what will set your photos apart.