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Taking Care of Yourself this Spring

I don’t know about you but I’m SO ready for some warmer weather. The winter has really taken it out of all of us and I’m definitely looking forward to longer days and some sunshine on my face. I’ve been doing a lot more to take care of myself lately, eating properly and going to the gym, and I’ve been thinking about ways that I can expand on that in the coming days, so I thought I’d share with you my top five ways to take care of yourself this spring:

Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy is good for so many things and I’ve been looking at all of the different uses for the different oils, including anti-ageing properties and ways to soothe aching muscles. Neal’s Yard Remedies have an amazing range which are completely organic and have an oil for every ailment imaginable – I’m planning to mix a few of my own scents to use in the bath on gym days.

Massage

A few years back, I went for a massage at a local day spa and I enjoyed it SO much but it’s something I’ve never found the time or money to do again. Now that I’m running and weight lifting, I feel like I’d really benefit from a massage (or even regular massages) so I’m planning to make Spring the season in which I do it!

Yoga

As well as the exercise that I’m already doing, I’m planning to throw in a weekly yoga class as well. Running and weight-lifting are both great ways to lose weight, increase strength and tone up but I’m hoping that yoga will help with my flexibility and also help to improve any muscle aches that I get after working out.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a word that I’ve heard a lot of people use in the last couple of years and after looking into it, I think it’s something I could really stand to learn more about. The definition of mindfulness is “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.” and it sounds like exactly what I need for my Springtime self-care.

SLEEP!

Sleep is SO important to healing and mental health and as most parent knows it can also be an elusive thing! It becomes even more important when you’re exercising because the body needs time to heal and repair itself, so I’m planning on revamping the whole look of our bedroom and treating us to some new bed linen, to make our bedroom a palace of relaxation so that sinking in to bed at night feels like a proper treat!

What are you doing to take care of yourself this Spring?

Taking Care of my Skin with Biotulin

One of the knock-on effects of me being overweight is that I’ve made less effort in other ways with my appearance. I think it’s an issue with confidence and self-esteem, but because I’ve had a lot of self-loathing about my weight, it means that I feel like it’s just not worth making the effort to make myself look nice. On the flipside of this, now that I AM taking care of myself, it’s given me a little more of an interest in making myself look more presentable.

One thing that I am worried about with losing weight is loose skin, not just on my tummy (inevitable after two large pregnancies resulting in c-sections, as well as my weight) but also my face. I’ve seen SO many celebs who are large their whole lives, lose a bunch of weight but suddenly look ten years older because the chub had been giving them a bit of a “baby face” effect. Once the fat melts away, there’s nothing pushing the wrinkles out anymore!! Anyway, the crux of all this is that I’ve been researching skincare recently, trying to find something effective but affordable, and I think I’ve found it.

Biotulin Supreme Skin Gel is actually used by the Duchess Kate Middleton, and was also a recommendation that she shared with Michelle Obama, both of whom have incredible skin! The gel is basically like a non-injectable, organic botox which firms and tightens the face. It contains a natural local anesthetic extracted from the plant Acmella oleracea, which promises to reduce muscle contractions and relax the facial features around the eyes and between the eyebrows. This promises to reduce fine lines and make the skin noticeably smoother.

Michelle’s make-up artist, Carl Ray, says “Michelle Obama has been using this organic Botox gel regularly on the recommendation of Kate Middleton”, while Michelle herself said “It’s really pretty basic. I wash my face with a good cleanser, and I use a moisturizer with an SPF. Every now and then I’ll go to a dermatologist for microderm or a facial, but I don’t have time to do that all the time.”

The best thing about this miracle product is that it only costs £43 per bottle, making it affordable for even us mere mortals, unlike a lot of the other high-end products on the market – I’m going to make sure that this is well and truly at the top of my birthday list in June! Knowing that I’ll be able to use something to firm my face as the weight melts off is a real bonus because weight loss isn’t always as simple as being fat at the beginning and slim at the end, especially as you get older.

If it’s good enough for Michelle Obama, it’s definitely good for me!

You Beauty!

Everyone wants to look their best, whether it’s just for day to day life, or you have a special occasion coming up like Valentine’s day. But along with all the stresses of being a mom,  it can be hard to find the time to devote to our beauty regimens. Does this sound familiar? Do you find yourself smothering on some lipstick in between burping the baby, and doing the hoovering? Then read on for some tips that will help you look great.

Take that makeup off

One of the best, small things you can do to look your best at all time is to take your makeup off. I know you probably thought that it’s better to put it on!

But actually, it’s great to have a day, or two where you don’t wear makeup so your skin can breathe. That will help it from getting blemished, and that grey pallor!

Of course, you have to make sure you remove your makeup at the end of the day too. Use micellar water for this is gentle and effective!

Get dressed in the morning

Something else that is going to help any busy mum look good, and feel better is to get dressed in the morning. I know that it is so tempting to stay in your comfies all day long. They are warm and cosy, and you hardly have a minute to yourself, but getting dressed can make all the difference.

It makes you feel like you are part of the real world, and that you have made an effort. It also makes going out anywhere a lot more likely so it can help you from living a hermit-like existence when the baby is small.

Your smile is golden

Another great tip for looking and feeling better is to smile more. The act of smiling actually produces endorphins, even if you don’t feel that happy! Plus smiling people always look better than grumpy ones!

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But is there something that is holding you back from smiling, like broken or uneven teeth? Then it can be useful to speak to a professional about treatments like invisible teeth straightening. Things like this can help you have a great smile all of the time, so you look happy and healthy, even if someone does catch you without your makeup on!

Mascara is your friend

Taking of makeup, if you are under the impression that its full face or nothing, you need to have a rethink. So often, if its choice of applying a full face of makeup and just not bothering, we go for the latter.

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But make it a little easier on yourself, especially if you only have limited time in which to do these things. Instead use a BB cream which is moisturising, evening and SPF protecting all in one. Finish this off with a little mascara to accentuate the eyes, and you will look like a fresh faced and natural version of your best self.

Treat yourself

Something else that is super important when you are living a hectic life is to find some time, to treat yourself to a spa treatment or facial, on occasion. This can help keep your skin in the best condition, so you look amazing. For a super skin boost, chose one with collagen included. This will help plump the skin, making it look younger and firmer.

Taking some time out to have a spa treatment or two, like a mud wrap or Swedish massage, will also provide a rare moment of ‘me time.’  Which can in itself be refreshing and revitalising. Making your look and feel much better.

Why not make a mini break of it and stay overnight? Then you can relax by the pool, chill in the hot tub, and treat yourself to a well-deserved meal in the evening. You could even take your other half if you were feeling super nice!

Contour Dejour

For those special occasions you may want to put a little effort in, so why not try contouring. I know you’ve probably been scared stiff by all of those long tutorials on the internet! Those ones where you have to put on different shades, and layers, and blend, and set them all individually! But it doesn’t actually need to be that complicated.

Instead invest in a contour stick, with a light colour on one side and shade on the other. Then simply draw in the contours and highlights following these simple patterns. Then blend and finish with your normal powder.

It’s easy, it makes you look amazing, and it doesn’t take five hours to get right! What more could you want?

Beauty Fads I’m Not On Board With

I’ve been thinking lately that I need to start making a bit more effort with my appearance. My day-to-day look is very low-maintenance, usually because I’m just in and out of the car taking Sausage to school, doing the shopping and all of the other things that the average 30-something Mum of two does on a daily basis. I chuck a bit of make-up on but that’s about it, but lately I’ve been noticing that beauty has gone to a whole new level and suddenly we’re all obsessed with eyebrows and strobing! There are, however, several beauty trends that I WILL NOT get on-board with and I thought I’d share a few of them here:

Waist Training

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When I first saw this, I genuinely thought it was a joke. For those of you not in the know, waist training involves wearing increasingly tight corsets in order to “train” your waist to be smaller, and is championed by the Kardashians, amongst others. The fact is, it’s absolute bollocks and simply doesn’t train anything, but it probably does have a terrible impact on your internal organs and ability to, you know, breathe or efficiently digest food.

Anal Bleaching

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I know, I’m a little shocked even at myself for mentioning anal bleaching, but it’s one of those things which has inexplicably gone from ‘weird, niche thing for porn stars’ to ‘thing that supposedly normal people are doing’. Never in my life have I seen a bumhole that I thought needed a coating of Domestos, but apparently it’s all the rage. Find out more with this anal bleaching guide

Pointy Nails

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Let me say right here, I actually LOVE the look of a pointy manicure (not the scary, mega-long ones though!) and I’m insanely jealous of anyone who rocks this look, but I just cannot cope with long nails, no matter how hard I try. I’ve tried having regular fake nails, not even pointy ones and I find it impossible to type, use my phone, put tights on, wipe my arse and just about anything else that requires me to be tactile, and adding a point on the end would basically render me useless.

Are there any beauty trends that you find absolutely crazy? Or are you a huge fan of pointy nails and whitened bottoms? I’d love to hear your opinion on this so do leave me a comment below.

Boost Your Post-Baby Confidence

Boost Your Post-Baby ConfidenceI don’t know about you, but I am definitely not one of those women who wears pregnancy well. I carry HUGE bumps despite having small babies, suffer with problems with my hips and the closest I come to a ‘glow’ is wiping the sweat from my brow after a particularly nasty bout of morning sickness. By the time baby comes along, most of us feel well and truly battered and it’s basically the law that “normal” women feel a bit lost and frumpy in their post-baby body. I thought I’d take a look at ways to help you to give your confidence a little boost so that you feel more human and ward off those baby blues.

Get Some Exercise

I know. I know. Suggesting exercise when you’ve either squeezed or had a human cut out of your body is probably going to make you hate me, but everyone knows that exercise boosts happy hormone levels, so it’s pretty much guaranteed to make you feel better. I’m not suggesting you start training for a marathon a couple of weeks post-partum (unless you want to!) but trying a mum and baby exercise class or just going for a walk can really boost your morale and help you lose the excess baby weight.

Get a Hair Transplant

Okay, this one might sound a little bit bonkers but LOTS of women lose hair during pregnancy and for some people, it simply never grows back. Hair transplant cost doesn’t have to be astronomical and if replacing your lost hair gives you your confidence back, it’s priceless.

Make Time for Friends

Sometimes, being a new mum can feel incredibly isolating and months can fly by in a baby-haze before you realise how lonely you are. Making time to see your friends can be incredibly theraputic and just getting the chance to have a chinwag with someone over the age of ten can give you more of a boost than almost anything else.

Take Care of Yourself

When Sausage was born, I became obsessed with painting my nails. I bought dozens of different colours and my nails always looked great. There was something really soothing about taking ten minutes for myself while she was napping to make sure just one part of me looked good, even when the rest of me was unwashed and plastered in baby sick! It doesn’t have to be nails – shape your brows, do your make-up, whatever it is to perk you up, tale some time to do it.

Remember You’re Part of a Couple

I think it’s incredibly common for new parents to get so completely caught up in parenting that they forget that they’re also someone’s partner. If you don’t want to have someone else look after the baby, plan a mini-date for when baby naps and have an adult conversation with your other half. We went to Wagamama last week and there was a young couple with a tiny baby in a carseat, fast asleep on the table the whole time they were eating, but at least they were spending time with one another.

In-Home Gadgets to Help with Beauty & Wellbeing

Baby, it’s cold outside, but being stuck indoors needn’t be a chore! Whatever the weather and whatever the season, there are now gadgets galore to help you feel better. When it comes to looking after ourselves in the home, we Brits are a little behind some of our European counterparts, many of whom have long relied on additional home installations to keep them at their peak. With this in mind, today we’re taking a little look at products you can purchase to enhance your wellbeing, all within your own four walls.

Helpful Humidifiers

Humidifiers are gadgets that make the air in your house or apartment a bit more people-friendly. Just to avoid confusion; they are not those contraptions that stop damp taking hold when you’re drying clothes indoors! The purpose of a humidifier is to restore the moisture balance in the air. Making the air in your home ‘‘wetter’ may seem like an odd mission when it’s pouring with rain outdoors most of the time. However, modern building techniques mean that our airways and skin face a bit of an obstacle course whenever we transition from outside, in.  

Small flats and apartments in particular can suffer ventilation and humidity issues. Moving from cold and wet to warm and dry areas therefore contributes to many common winter beauty complaints. Dry cracked lips, flaky skin and even nosebleeds are exacerbated by movement between the cold outdoors to our warm, centrally-heated homes. During the colder months, we – and our beauty and health – are at the mercy of this barrage of changes.

Beauty experts have long recommend switching up your skincare routine when the dark nights descend. It’s not uncommon for us girls to have preferred winter cleansers and moisturisers that are more hydrating than our favourite summer products. They are the tools that see us through the deep dark winter until spring arrives to brighten up our complexions. A humidifier is another weapon you may consider adding to your beauty arsenal. As an added bonus, humidifiers can in some cases help with snoring too. This is of course excellent news if your other half sounds like a growling bear when they sleep! Want to know where to start, here’s a helpful round up of the best humidifier models around.

Lovely Lights

Not all light therapy products meet the standards required to treat seasonal affective disorder nor do you need to have SAD to consider introducing a little light therapy into your home. Using light boxes with UV lights has been found to help those suffering with SAD, which is associated with the reduced amount of sunshine we are exposed to in winter. Special SAD busting light products can prove effective for some sufferers, particularly when used in the morning.

Light therapy can enhance your home in so many other ways too. You could consider purchasing a dawn simulator alarm clock to ease you into the day more gently. Use of different coloured lighting can also have a positive impact on your mood, helping you to relax or to feel more refreshed. With this in mind, could you use lights a little more creatively to set the scene for relaxation? Using LEDs to create a night sky is a popular bedroom DIY hack that can also be used in your bathroom. The sensory impact of light is also combined with water in sensory showers, though investing in this kind of home improvement will be a little harder on your wallet.

Heavenly Hot Tubs

Who doesn’t love sitting back in a hot tub and sipping a glass of fizz? There’s a reason the best day spas usually have a hot tub and that’s because they’re great at helping us to wind down and relax, which is an essential part of looking after ourselves. Hot tubs for the home have come down in price in recent years and there are now many temporary models that can be put up and down when not in use. If a hot tub is your ultimate home pamper product, you should be aware that they are not cheap things to run. Taking a regular time out after work in your own personal tub could amount to some serious hydrotherapy hours though. Along with helping you de-stress, time spent in the bubbles is associated with better circulation, which can cause problems in winter months. If you hit the gym or have an on-going muscle complaint a hot tub could help ease your pain, with water jets supplying soothing massage. Just remember that hot tubs are not recommended for use by pregnant women because they raise your temperature.

Do you have a beauty or wellbeing gadget you can’t live without? And would you consider indulging in some at home humidifying or light or hydro therapy to make the winter months more bearable?

Shopkins Beauty Treats (review)

If you’ve got kids, especially girls between the age of about 3 and goodness knows what, you’ve probably been acquainted with the craze that is Shopkins. These little collectables come in hundreds of shapes, from cakes to shoes to fridge freezers to lipstick, and each has a cute little name like “Lammy Lamington” and “Rhonda Ring”. Sausage, being a fairly typical 8 year old girl, is absolutely bonkers about them and has been collecting them for a while, and because BB is never one to let herself be left out, she’s even started her own little collection too. So when H&A got in touch and asked if we’d like to review the new Shopkins Beauty Treats, I knew I couldn’t say no.

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We were sent a set of stick-on earrings, a nail set, some Shopkins false nails, a set of lip glosses and a set of lip balms, all of which featured the usual distinctive Shopkins characters and branding. Because Sausage is at that in-betweeny age (still occasionally wants to play with toys but is developing an interest in make-up and other girly things) all of these bits felt like a really natural progression of her interests.

In terms of quality, I was actually really impressed. The lip gloss was a little gloopy but the colours were very  subtle, which meant she could wear them without getting that “child in a beauty pageant” effect that I hate. The lip balms were also really nice, with fruity scents and a very faint shimmer. Sausage already has her ears pierced so she didn’t have space on her lobes for the stick on earrings but, TOP TIP, they also make really cool nail stickers if your little one wants a Shopkins manicure!

The nail files were really cute and Sausage felt very grown up being able to do her own nails (and I didn’t feel like I was letting her be TOO grown up). The only minor downside was that the false nails didn’t stick very well, so although they were fun to apply there was no real lasting power. I suppose if you were really determined to get them to stay on you could try different nail stickers or even nail glue, but I wasn’t keen on putting that stuff on Sausage’s young hands.

I know it seems like a cardinal sin to mention the “C” word at this time of year, but I actually think all of the Shopkins Beauty Treats would make really excellent stocking fillers at Christmas; everything is priced below the £10-ish mark and there are other items in the range too, like eye masks and perfumes, which I just know Sausage would love.

Most of the range is available at Claire’s Accessories as well as LOADS of other Shopkins related stuff and we’d definitely recommend them for any Shopkins fan.

8 Steps To Luscious Lips

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Attaining the perfect pout can be a challenge. However, with the right tools and products, you can learn how to get luscious lips. Once you have mastered the basics, you’ll feel more confident trying out different types of lipstick knowing it will last longer and look better.

  1. Exfoliate. You can make you own lip scrub at home by mixing sugar and olive oil. Gently massage it onto your lips for a few minutes and voila – super soft lips that are ready to go.
  1. Moisturise. Applying lipstick to dry lips can be disastrous. It can look flaky and will wear off quickly. However, this can be avoided by moisturizing them before applying lipstick. Use your favorite lip balm or some coconut oil and get you lips feeling sexy.
  1. Use concealer. If you are applying a matte lipstick and want to get the exact color, then applying concealer first will help you. It creates a blank canvas so the color will really pop. This works great with bold shades and helps your lips stand out. It can also be used after application if you make any mistakes or the color bleeds outside the line.
  1. Line up. You should always use a lip liner to get the best look for your lipstick or gloss. It creates a sharp outline and makes your lips look fuller and more luscious. Find a lip liner in the same shade as your lipstick, and line your lips with it. After you have done this, fill in the rest of your lip with the same liner pencil. This helps the lipstick last longer and also adds to the intense look.

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  1. Don’t rub your lips together. As tempting as it can be to do this, it can have a terrible effect on matte lipstick. A lip brush can be a great way to spread the color more evenly and help to avoid the texture problems that can be caused by rubbing your lips. You can also use a piece of good quality tissue to help blot away any excess lipstick.
  1. Don’t be afraid of color. Now you know how to prepare your lips; you can play around with different colors and textures. You could buy lip gloss or try a sheer lipstick for a change. There are even products that come with a clear topcoat to lock your lipstick color in so it won’t fade during wear.
  1. Avoid heavy eyes with a bold lip. You want the focus to be on your mouth, so keep the rest of your makeup neutral and muted. A great look can be a simple slick of mascara and some barely-there blush which make your lips stand out even more.
  1. Finally, invest in some good quality products to make the whole process easier. Lip brushes and balms are worth splashing out on so you can let your lips do the talking.

Does Your Husband Have A Beauty Regime Of Their Own? Here’s How It Should Look

Women these days have such varied skincare and beauty regimes. They can vary from the specific morning and nighttime rituals. Right through to using different products at different times of the year. Men, on the other hand, are a little more basic when it comes to things like this. Which, in fairness, I don’t think is necessarily a bad thing. However, you will also find that some men don’t take as much care of their appearance as they should. Which is why I thought it would be a great idea to highlight how a basic beauty regime should look for a man.

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Do they use a facial wash?

I would be surprised to hear that a man doesn’t wash his face, even just with water. It’s a great way of waking yourself up in the morning and getting all the sleep out of your eyes. But just like a woman would, it’s a good idea to include a facial wash in this part of the routine. It can cleanse the skin leaving it feeling fresh for the day. Men can suffer from spots and skin problems to, and may find that they have varying skin types from oily sections to dryness patches. Just like we would, it’s essential to find the right product for them and then sticking to it.

Is there any hair maintenance that needs to take place

Hair maintenance is something that will be different for each and every man. Some will need to shave every day as they like a clean look. Others may have something more commonly known as “designer stubble” which needs more maintenance than it let’s on. Then you have the men that grow their beards. All of which require care and time to perfect the look that man is going for. It’s hard to find razors and beard trimmers that can cut the time down. But once a routine is established you will find your man will get this sorted in no time. Another thing to consider would be a shaving gel and an aftershave balm to cut down irritation after shaving.

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Moisturising is just as important for a man as it is for a woman

Skin is skin. But why is it that some women take more care of it than some men? It’s the same thing, requiring different levels of attention and needs. Which is why moisturising is just as important for a man as it is for a woman. While some men don’t need to go to the same lengths as some women do, a good light moisturiser will keep their skin hydrated. Again this is something to consider if you find that the skin in question has any oily tendencies or dry patches.

Don’t forget to finish off the look

Finally, once all that maintenance is taken care of, which isn’t drastic, then it’s time to finish off the look. This could be with a bit of restyling of the hair and apply some gel or spray. Or just making sure that all hair maintenance is taken care of, and they look ready for the day.

It’s not as complex, or as lengthy as some beauty regimes. But a basic foundation to taking care of your skin and overall look. I hope it helps you encourage the man in your life to consider how they start their days.

 

The Realities of Being Fat and Pregnant

A couple of weeks ago, I read a viral Facebook post about a pregnant woman who’d been fat shamed after posting a series of photos online that she’d had taken of her and her bump. The story was then picked up by the Huffington Post after the woman was asked to take part in “The Honest Body Project”, a photo series which gives an honest look at women’s bodies.

The whole story was something which really resonated with me. Brittany Dykstra, the woman in the photos said “I’m 35 weeks pregnant and just last week I had maternity pictures taken to celebrate this horrible, but beautiful pregnancy. For the first time in about 35 weeks I felt beautiful, and was so excited to share this moment with my friends and family.”

She goes on to say “Later that day we got the sneak peak pictures back and I posted them on Facebook thinking my friends and family would think I was beautiful and would love them, however that wasn’t the case. All I received were negative comments about how huge I am, about how unhealthy I am, and about how they think my baby is going to be a 10 to 12 pound baby by the looks of how much I weigh. I literally went in the bathroom and cried for hours. It’s so hard being plus size, pregnant, sick, and getting negative comments about the way I look. If I’m happy and accepting of my body, why can’t everyone else just be happy for me?!”

Before I fell pregnant with Sausage, I wasn’t huge, probably around 12st, so a little overweight for my 5’4″ height, but not horrendously so as I have a large frame and huge boobs which tends to mean even at a ‘healthy’ body shape, I’m a little over what BMI charts say I should be. I gained a lot of weight during that pregnancy; for the first 4 months, I could barely eat anything at all and actually lost weight because of hyperemesis gravidarum. Then I developed gestational diabetes and despite trying to eat a low GI diet, the weight piled on. Once I’d given birth, I was in a cycle of depression and PTSD which meant that I never lost the baby weight and by the time I fell pregnant with Burrito Baby 5 years later, I was pushing 14 and a half stone.

I’d had every intention of losing the weight BEFORE getting pregnant again, especially as I was already diabetic, but I fell pregnant a lot quicker than I thought I would after having my implant removed, which meant dealing with pregnancy with a much higher starting weight than I would have liked. Like Brittany, once I reached a certain point in my pregnancy, I also felt a little more body-confident; my shape was suddenly defined by the life growing inside of me, not the amount of biscuits I ate, and while I wasn’t about to post photos of myself in lingerie on Facebook, I totally understand whet she meant about feeling beautiful for the first time in a long time.

According to the story, Dykstra started receiving abuse from family and friends regarding her weight, although no examples are given and I can’t help but wonder how much of this “abuse” was unwanted but well-meaning concern for her obvious weight problem. Because, while I am against the idea of ‘fat-shaming’ (lets face it, us fatties do tend to KNOW we’re fat, we don’t need to be constantly reminded), I do think it’s deluded to think that being overweight doesn’t cause health problems, especially during pregnancy. Being “happy” with your body is one thing, but being aware of health ramifications is also hugely important.

On a medical level, obesity during pregnancy can increase the risk of gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, infection, problems during labour, increased birth weight, birth defects, babies with a high birth weight and even miscarriage. This isn’t about ‘fat shaming’ or ‘thin privilege’ – these are REAL risks, caused by being overweight.

On a personal level, I definitely found that being overweight during pregnancy adversely affected me. Hauling around a giant bump AND a giant body was genuinely exhausting and I honestly think my SPD and mobility would have been slightly better had I not been putting so much pressure on my pelvis with my excess weight (although and friend of mine, who is very slim, also had SPD, probably worse than my own, so I’m not saying obesity is a cause or necessarily means I suffered more, just that I don’t think it helped at all).

I’m not saying that Brittany Dykstra deserved to be abused for being overweight, nor am I saying that she deserved to feel any less beautiful than other pregnant women who enjoy the glow of carrying a child, but tip-toeing around the issue of obesity isn’t right either. Lots of women get pregnant at a less than ideal time of their lives and I’m sure that, given the choice, women would always choose to be in peak health when conceiving but it doesn’t always happen that way.

The thing is, weight is such a hot-button issue for most people. I know I’ve taken offense, even from medical professionals who’ve tried to talk to me about being overweight. It’s one of those things that people are hugely sensitive about because it’s so closely tied to their self-esteem, so choosing a moment where a mother-to-be is feeling good about herself to give her a lecture isn’t the best timing, not to mention the fact that she probably already KNOWS the issues AND has a team of health professionals telling her the same thing, but that doesn’t alter the fact that being fat and pregnant can be a problem, so it’s not simply a case of whether a person is happy with their weight.

What do you think? Are people overstepping the mark by expressing concern for her? Have you experienced pregnancy as an overweight person? I’d love to hear your opinions and experiences because this whole story has obviously struck a chord with me.