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Pyjamas on the School Run

school runUnless you live in a cave with no internet access, you’ll likely have seen the stories all over the news about one headteacher who came out to slam the school run mums who have been wearing their PJ’s for the morning drop-off. She reportedly sent a text to parents stating “have noticed that there has been an increasing tendency for parents to escort children to and from school while still wearing their pyjamas and, on occasion, even slippers. Could I please ask that when you are escorting your children, you take the time to dress appropriately in daywear that is suitable for the weather conditions?”

It’s one of those topics that pops up every now and again, usually in a Mumsnet community thread, where everyone will air their opinions, but for a headteacher to now comment, the debate seems to have been lifted to a new level.

I have a love/hate relationship with the school run. On the one hand, I hate the stresses of getting both girls ready in time, piling them into the car on cold mornings and eventually having to say goodbye to Sausage for six and a half hours, 5 days a week. Having said that, we also get some really nice time together to chat, listen to music and connect for little while, which is something I love. Now that we live further away from school, we have to leave the house at 8am every day in order to beat the traffic and get a parking space within a decent distance of the school, so our school run is over an hour by the time I get back home in the mornings, meaning we have to get up earlier than ever.

I think I speak for a LOT of stay-at-home Mums when I say that getting ME ready in the mornings is an absolute last priority on the list. When you’ve got children who need to be fed, watered, clothed, hair brushed, bags packed, various bits of homework remembered, drinks bottle filled, and myriad other things, being presentable myself is only just about on the radar. If I were going straight to work or out for some important engagement after the school run, things might be different, but if it’s a toss-up between an extra five minutes in bed or putting on mascara, I know which one I’ll choose.

I also feel that, as long as Sausage is cared for and presented to school on time and in order, what the hell does it matter what I look like? I’m not there for a fashion parade and I certainly don’t care what anyone else is wearing. Headteachers are certainly not paid to judge parents unless it’s a matter of welfare for their pupils. I cannot help but think that the headteacher who spoke out did so on a popularly contentious subject knowing that they’d get their five minutes of fame from it all.

Having said all of that, I do think there’s something a little off about pyjamas in the playground. It doesn’t take much to stick on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, even if you have a shower once you get home. It definitely sends a message to the kids that it’s okay to have low standards – I wouldn’t take Sausage or BB anywhere in their pyjamas but if they were to see me doing it they’d get the impression that it was an okay thing to do.

What do you think? Should teachers keep their opinions to themselves? Are we all just busy mums trying to stay on top of everything? Should we be showing our kids that we value ourselves a little bit more by taking even 5 minutes for ourselves? I’d love to know what you all think so please leave me a comment below.

11 thoughts on “Pyjamas on the School Run

  1. What have always doing in the weekends? Are you working in front of computer, huddling as a result of the couch at home while television play, or football word-cup in your bed while eating pop corn and drinking beer? Had it been a challenging time since you did exercise last evening?

  2. Personally I could never leave the house to do the school run in my pyjamas. I think the head teacher was right to ask parents to get dressed as it gives a bad impression of the school if parents can’t be bothered to get dressed. If u want to go out in pjs, go to bed in a track suit. My son hates getting dressed but has to be appropriately dressed for school, so I feel I too should be appropriately dressed to take him to school.
    On Christmas Day one year, I put my new pjs on at my mum’s house and then got in the car to go home in them. On the way home, my son was very ill and we had to take him to a&e. I was mortified that I was sat there in my pyjamas but on that one occasion, I really didn’t have time to put a jumper over my pj top or swap my bottoms for jeans.

  3. I agree with you on all points here. I did however wear pj bottoms on a school run once.. about a foot of snow when I woke so I rushed and left the house an hour earlier than planned to ensure a safe journey etc, I’m not one bit ashamed.

  4. The argument is ‘you don’t know what goes on in other people’s lives’. True. Some people ha e disabled children, illnesses or depression. But people have always had these problems going back 15, 20, 30, 40 years. Ill children, lack of sleep, depression etc. They still managed to get dressed. In the 50’s and 60’s that included full hair and make up…….
    The mums I see in their PJ’s are not ill, depressed nor do they have disabled children. They roll up in their PJ’s, fag in their gobs, and buy their 4 kids sausage rolls for breakfast from the hot shelf in the shop EVERY SINGLE DAY! That is just pure laziness. And it’s disgusting…….

  5. I personally get dressed every morning even tho I’d rather stay in my pjs but I dnt tend to feel the need to insult mothers that want to shoot to the school in there pjs doesn’t affect the care of the children what so ever if the child is smart healthy and happy what is the big deal? How does it affect anyone else’s life? How do you know that parent hasn’t been chucking her guts up all night or severely depressed but still managed to get her child to school on time. I would never judge any other parent based on what they wore as mothers shouldn’t we appreciate it could be for a number of different reasons or maybe she may of just told her child she’s being lazy or poorly ect surely there’s more important things to worry about like the parents the dress glammed up to their eyeballs but neglect their children? Or the children that are being abused! Disgusting if you ask me

  6. I wouldn’t personally have given it a thought before it was brought to our attention – but the wearing of pjs is one thing – the subsequent attempt to undermine the headmistress sends a terrible message to the kids (and could embarrass the hell out of them). Unless

    1. it’s a case of one mother in need of being discreetly taken to one side to ask if she’s coping, (and I sense it’s a series of repeat offenders to warrant intervention) then sleep in a tracksuit if you have to – I think she has a point.

  7. If I can sling on some jeans, a strappy top and a jumper while the kids eat, then so can everyone else! And I don’t even have to get out of the car!
    Sure, there are mornings my hair is scraped back without seeing a brush, and make up is special occasions only, but I still get dressed dammit!!! X

  8. I just think what sort of example
    Is this setting for our children. We tell them to get dressed for school in the morning so what will they think when we are sat in our pjs nagging them to put clothes on. How long does it take to put trousers/leggins and a top on?

  9. I have to agree with the headteacher. it takes 5 minutes to pull on some clothes, hell put them on over your PJs if you really want. She isn’t asking for everyone to turn up in formal wear… and I have to think that it is completely wrong for the parents to turn up to school activities and evening meetings in Pjs!

    I mean I know I am not a mum so who knows what it’s really like, but I think it sets a bad example for the children.

  10. Nah, I’m with the headteacher here. Get up, put some clothes on, and get ready for the day. No one is suggesting a full face of makeup and immaculate hair, but, like you said, putting on a pair of jeans takes seconds and sets a better example for everyone concerned.

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