When I fell pregnant the first time around, I experienced more than my fair share of complications. I actually found out I was pregnant when I was hospitalised for tearing a hole in my oesophagus because of the hideous amount of sickness I was experiencing, and things didn’t get better as the weeks went on. In the course of that one pregnancy, I developed SPD, a condition which causes the ligaments in your pelvis to loosen too much and click out of joint with alarming regularity, as well as gestational diabetes and then, in the final weeks, pre-eclampsia.
Mine was, by no means, a normal pregnancy so if you’re yet to conceive, don’t let my experiences put you off. What I really want to talk about is now. Five years after giving birth to my daughter, I find myself pregnant again and this time, the pregnancy couldn’t be more different (touch wood!).
I’m currently at the 15 week mark and so far I’ve not had any of the sickness at all, which is a huge relief. When you suffer hyper-emesis, it’s hard to communicate how debilitating it can be. The constant nausea and inability to keep anything down is enough to make you feel exhausted all the time. So, knowing that the sickness has held off this time is a massive comfort to me, as it’s making the early stages of pregnancy so much more bearable.
Before I conceived for the second time, I had assurances from just about everyone I knew that no two pregnancies are the same and that second pregnancies were always easier on the body. It took 5 years to feel fully convinced (plus a whole lot of nagging from Sausage about making her a big sister!) but now that I’m pregnant and enjoying it for the first time ever, I’m happy to say that those who gave such sage advice were right!
I’ve also noticed that a lot of the official pregnancy guidelines that are given out are different now to what I was told five years ago (yay to being able to eat rare steak and peanuts!) and even brands seem to have changed, so although I’ve done this all before, I feel like a newbie, finding my way through the myriad options and alternatives all over again.
Although Husband and I are happy with how we’ve raised Sausage, I’m sure there will be things that I’ll do differently this time. For instance, last time I toyed with the idea of using cloth nappies, but ultimately caved and ended up going with the ‘easy’ option of disposables. This time, I intend to do a lot more research on the benefits of reusables and hope to give them a proper go, which is something that appeals to me from a financial and environmental point of view.
So, while in the grand scheme of things, I might be what you’d consider an ‘experienced’ mother, I’m by no means feeling like I know all there is to know and I’m guessing I’ll still have plenty of learning to do over the coming months – if anyone has any advice or recommendations, I’d be more than happy to hear them.