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All About ME! · Happiness · Health · Weightloss.

Weight Loss, Body Shape, Blah, Blah, Blah…

It’s an age-old debate that’s probably gone back for longer than we can imagine; the back-and-forth that surrounds what is considered to be aesthetically pleasing in a woman. For most of my life, it’s been targeted at fashion magazines and the media in general for touting ‘as-skinny-as-possible’ as the ‘ideal’. I’ve seen many a story about how this designer or that designer is using walking skeletons in their runways shows and how we’re creating generations of kids who refuse to eat.

Just recently, I’ve noticed social media getting in on the act with several photos doing the rounds concerning body shape and body image. Here’s a couple of them:





















The image on the left is being posted with captions like “I wish I lived in a time when this was attractive” and the photo on the right speaks for itself. Another example of this latest trend is the focus on actresses such as Christina Hendricks who, if you don’t already know, looks like this:

The lady in the top left and Christina Hendricks are both gorgeous, there’s no denying it. But, do people really think that this is in ANY WAY more achievable than the skinny girls at top right? Let me tell you this – it’s not. Both of these women are voluptuous but that’s not down to diet or exercise (okay, it might be a bit down to diet and exercise). What you’re seeing here is GENETICS. Do you know how rare it is to find a true hourglass figure? Christine Hendricks and the lady above are both blessed in that they both have an ample bosom and a round bottom. Neither carries any weight on their face and very little on their arms or mid-sections. Unless they both spend hours in the gym doing only arm exercises or sleep with a facial Slendertone on, it’s doubtful that they managed to do this on purpose. 

Now, let’s talk about the skinny girls. How about, they’re just naturally skinny? Granted, the one in the middle is very thin, but there are people in the world who just are, no matter how much we bitch and moan about it. The problem here isn’t the fact that some people are skinny and some people are curvy, it’s the pedestals they’re placed on. I read recently that Christina Hendricks is so fed up with interviewers asking her about her body, that she actually has her assistant pre-warn them that she won’t answer any questions on the subject.

I haven’t seen any magazine stands in the past few days but I’d bet my last tenner that every single one aimed at women has a headline featuring some sort of ‘New Year, New You’ ‘How to Lose 15lb in 10 days’ diet and exercise plan, and I bet they’re all coupled with a photo of a 21-year-old model who’s been in hair, make up and styling for hours then airbrushed to within an inch of her life.

I supposed I’m thinking about all of this because I do have a lot of changes to make in the New Year. I need to lose a considerable amount of weight and, most importantly, I need to get healthy. But, no matter how hard I try, I’m not going to look like a 50’s pin-up. I’m not going to look like Christina Hendricks and I’m definitely not going to look like a runway model. I’m hopefully going to look like a slimmer, healthier version of me, a 28-year-old woman whose belly has carried a baby, whose hips have been used for balancing a toddler on, whose arms have lugged a million loads of washing, whose face has the beginnings of laughter lines and who would be happy just to be able to play netball again.

I’m not aiming for magazine perfection – I’m just aiming for a better version of me and I think if everyone did that and ignored the so-called ‘ideals’ we’d all be a lot happier.


Am I A Christmas Hypocrite?

I was listening to Radio 2 today and they had someone on talking about Christmas in terms of midnight mass and other religious things (I think he was a vicar, but I missed the beginning of the segment) and I found myself feeling cross.

“This is the BBC”, I thought, “why am I listening to religious things?”.

I thought the BBC should be a bit more moderate and found myself wondering if they had a Kohen on for Hanukkah or an Imam for Ramadan. But then it occurred to me – they were talking about CHRISTmas. You know, the religious holiday?

The problem I have is this; I don’t believe in Jesus. But I kind of do. Let me explain:

I don’t like to pin down my beliefs and give them a name. I think there are aspects of Christianity I like, such as the message that we should all be nice to each other, but I like that in the same way that I like aspects of Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, Jainism, Rastafari and so on and so forth. I’m open to the concept that there may have been a man called Jesus who spread the word of love and tolerance, but do I believe that he was the Son of God? No, probably not. However, there are large aspects of each of them that I dislike (less so with Buddhism or Jainism) and I don’t celebrate the festivals of any of the other religions, so why do I celebrate Christmas?

There’s a quote from one of my favourite films that has always really resonated with me. It’s from Dogma, the Kevin Smith film about religion and may not be a heavyweight in terms of theological debate, but for me, this is profound:

Rufus: He still digs humanity, but it bothers Him to see the shit that gets carried out in His name – wars, bigotry, televangelism. But especially the factioning of all the religions. He said humanity took a good idea and, like always, built a belief structure on it. 
Bethany: Having beliefs isn’t good? 
Rufus: I think it’s better to have ideas. You can change an idea. Changing a belief is trickier…

IDEAS. That’s how I feel. I could never in a million years say that I don’t believe in anything, because I just don’t know and it would be terribly narrow-minded of me to refute anything, but the scientist in me just won’t let me get my head around the earth being created in six days. But hey, if I’m wrong, I’m wrong! Another quote I love is this:

‎”If science proves some belief of Buddhism wrong, then Buddhism will have to change.” -The Dalai Lama

That’s just beautiful, as far as I’m concerned. That is how it should be. Don’t ban science lessons which include evolution. How about we teach our kids ALL of the ideas?

But anyway, my original point – am I a Christmas hypocrite? Well, I just don’t know. Sausage doesn’t know the story of the nativity as such and I have no plans to teach it to her just yet. I knew it by her age as I went to a C of E primary school and we had hymns, psalms and all sorts every day, but I’m just not ready to teach her the nativity yet. Maybe Husband can jump in on this one, he’s far better at teaching her things than I am! But am I a hypocrite for celebrating Christmas without telling Sausage WHY?

I’d love to know how you feel about this. Are you having a totally non-religious Christmas? Do you ever feel weird about celebrating a religious festival with no intention of attending church? Or do you do the full-on Christian thing and teach your kids about Baby Jesus? Hit me up in the comments box!

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A Warner Bros. Christmas!

Last week, we were lucky enough to be sent a special Christmas stocking by Warner Bros. containing some lovely candy canes for our tree, our fave kind of chocolate (Lindt, in case you’re wondering!) and most importantly of all, a selection of Blurays to keep us entertained over the Festive period. It couldn’t have turned up at a better time as Sausage was at the height of her poorlyness, and a day in bed watching films was in order!

Perfect for this was  Polar Express

The blurb says “It’s Christmas Eve, and you’re about to roller-coaster up and down mountains, slip-slide over ice fields, tetter across mile-high bridges and be served hot chocolate by singing waiter more astonishing than any you can ever imagine. You’re on The Polar Express! Tom Hanks stars in and Robert Zemeckis directs this instant holiday classive filmed in dazzling performance-capture animation that makes every home magical.”

I’d never seen this before but it really was magical. Sausage was absolutely enthralled, we both were, and it really was a perfect Christmas film, with just the right amount of drama, action, mystery and happy ending. If you’ve not seen it before, I highly recommend it and it’s one to watch with the WHOLE family, I can imagine grandparents, parents and kids alike all enjoying Polar Express. Also, if you have a Bluray player or PS3, I can highly recommend opting for the Bluray version rather than the DVD, although the version we were sent contained the 3D Bluray, regular Bluray, as well as the DVD AND a digital copy, which pretty much future and past proofs you for a timespan of about 20 years in each direction!

The next film in the stocking was The Dark Knight Rises .

I only saw this film recently as I didn’t get a chance to see it at the cinema, but I’m a big fan of the Batman films and absolutely LOVE what Nolan has done with them. The Dark Knight Rises did not disappoint. In fact, and this is not something I thought I’d say about a Batman film, I cried for about the last half an our of the film. It is AMAZING.

Honestly, I was blown away by the entire film and think it was the perfect ending to the three movies that Nolan was signed up to make.  The Bluray copy was brilliant and really added to the viewing experience, because although this film wasn’t as visually dark as the first or second one, it was very striking and really benefited from the higher definition. I’m going to shut up about this film now because I don’t want to spoil it for anyone who hasn’t seen it, but if that’s you, I demand that you watch it!

The final film we were sent was ‘New Year’s Eve‘ and I have to confess, I haven’t actually watched this yet. That’s because it’s well and truly a ‘chick flick’ so I’m saving it for in case Husband has a night out at any point and I can have my own girlie night in. I’m guessing this film would be well accompanied by chocolate and maybe a Crabbies Alcoholic Ginger Beer (my fave!) or two, as it’s described as an American Love Actually. I’m really looking forward to giving this a watch – while I like to think I have good taste in films, I do love a good girlie film now and again. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of heart-warming girl-power, I say!

Not to do the film a disservice though, I feel I should point out that it has some incredible actors in it, such as the beloved Sarah Jessica Parker, my current idol Sofia Vergara and *drum roll please* Robert DeNiro, who takes my breath away!

Thanks to Warner Bros. for sending us these Blurays and our sweet treats! 

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