Depression · Health · Mental Health

Suicide is Painless…?

…or so Mike Altman would have us believe. I’m not sure if I do…

I’ve had conversations with people about suicide before and in general people get very animated about it. I’ve heard a lot of negativity about people who choose suicide, words bandied about like ‘selfish’ and ‘cowardly’ and if I’m honest, I dislike it.

In terms of selfishness, I have two thoughts. Firstly, I don’t believe that you can apply rational emotions to someone who is so close to the end of their tether that they’d consider taking their own lives. Secondly, if you have got to that point and you can see no way out, you’re too tired to go on, surely its selfish of others to expect you to live a life against your wishes for the sake of them?

That’s a very base way of looking at it and I know people who are left behind have to deal with pain and suffering, I’m not trying to denigrate that in any way, I’m just making the point that people take it personally when it’s not about them.

In terms of cowardice, I don’t know about you but I think it probably takes a lot of courage to be able to take the steps to end your own life. I’ve been at a very low ebb on a few occasions in my life and although the thought of suicide has crossed my mind, I’d never have the guts to do it.

Is it guts? I don’t know, I guess I’m just lucky enough to have more reasons to live than die.

We were there.

Husband and I were discussing suicide today after we found out that an acquaintance of ours had taken his life and he put a perspective on it that I hadn’t thought of. I told him how sad I felt that the guy had been so low that he’d ended it all and he said that if suicide is a conscious decision (i.e. not drink or drug related) then it needn’t always be sad. Maybe some people just decide that enough is enough and that they don’t want to go on any further. I guess I can understand what he means, but I’m socially programmed to view suicide as an act of sadness and desperation.

All I know is, I’ve seen literally hundreds of Facebook statuses and conversations today that suggest that PB will be sorely missed and the fact that he made a mark on the world is something to be proud of.

I hope so many people miss me when my time comes.

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  3. It’s such a complicated topic, everyone has their own reasons and feelings. It’s taken a long time but I can honestly now say that I’m glad I didn’t succeed in my attempts, but it really did take a long time to get to this point. At the time I saw no way out and would have done anything to end it, I hated people for stopping me, I cut people out of my life for it at the time.
    At the end of the day it’s a personal decision in my eyes, but having come through the other side I feel so strongly that people should hold on and fight for the right help because I know that it can get better.

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  5. As someone who attempted suicide in a very drastic way and was saved by the skin of her teeth, I can hands down tell you that for me, I simply saw no way out.
    I was tired and worn out from not being able to see past the next day, the next hour, the next minute.
    Depression is all consuming. You lose the ability to see things as others see them because it takes every single ounce of your being to simply breathe.

    Suicide isn’t painless. Not for the person doing it, or for the ones left behind. But I can say that if ‘friends’ have no idea that this was on the cards then they didn’t know that person at all and THAT is what’s really sad because intervention can help.
    Much love to all dealing with this situation. x

  6. My cousin committed suicide at the tender age of 26. A thoughtful, quiet, helpful, friendly bloke that you could wish for, happily married with a bright future ahead of him it was a complete shock to us as a family that he ended his life this way (although it wasn’t the first time he tried) to this day there are so many unanswered questions as to why. What was it that he felt so strongly about to end his life, and that it being the only way, but for whatever reasons he had I so hope he’s in a better place. But yes I agree it’s not all a cowardly and selfish act, each of them have specific reasons and I have never judged on why someone should end their lives in that way.

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