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Healthy Size?

I’ve been vocal in the past about my problems with my weight (for explanation of said problems, refer to this simple formula: Lazier than a sloth + Appetite of a blue whale = Arse like a hippo). Husband says I’m too hard on myself and that my self-criticism is too much, especially around Sausage, but I just like to think that I’m realistic. I can’t bear it when people who are overweight claim that the have no idea why they’re overweight. It makes me want to shout. It’s not difficult, if you eat too much and don’t move enough, you WILL GET FAT. That’s not to say that I judge people for being fat. I’m fat, I’m just not claiming to be in the dark about how I got here.

While I was out shopping today, rummaging through the sale rail in New Look, I heard a voice say “Excuse me, have you got this in a healthy size?”. I turned around to see a lady of about my age, probably about 6′ tall and clearly on the higher end of the plus size section. The sales assisstant asked her to repeat herself and she said again “Have you got this in a healthy size? You know, a size to fit a lady like me?”

Now, while I salute people for having confidence and self-love, I think this is actually very destructive. This woman was obviously very confident and happy in her own skin, but who in the world told her that being fat was healthy? There’s nothing wrong with being overweight, if you know the risks involved, just like smoking, drinking, etc. You’re an adult. If you want to fuck up your lungs/liver/pancreas, go right ahead, but don’t kid yourself into thinking that this is a healthy way to be.

I don’t think this woman should be criticized for being happy to be overweight, but this message that you can be fat and healthy at the same time is just downright wrong and quite frankly, dangerous.

As Sausage grows up, I’ll be encouraging to love herself for who she is and to be happy with her appearance, but I certainly won’t be teaching her that it’s okay to be fat. While I’d never want her to suffer the perpetual cycle of dieting that so many women live by, shouldn’t we be teaching our kids what healthy actually means?

What do you think?

5 thoughts on “Healthy Size?

  1. I agree with you completely – you know I’m overweight! Despite some of it being due to medical issues, I am well aware that I eat the wrong stuff and don’t move enough. I think teaching our kids (and ourselves) to be healthy is the most important thing – clearly whoever raised this lady had a skewed definition of what healthy means.

    Yes, self-confidence is great – but being overweight does not equal healthy. That is a really bizarre statement for someone to make!

  2. I think that being healthy is a much better thing to be teaching our children about than weight issues. I also agree that the woman in question is naive and a little daft to be labelling her size as healthy. However, the definition of healthy needs to be outlined for clarity. I’m vegetarian and eat 4-5 portions of fruit or vegetables a day, I don’t smoke, rarely drink, have a cholestoral level of 4.4 and my blood pressure is in the 60s. Presented with all that, surely I’m healthy? Yet I’m 5’10” and a plus-size.

    Good debate missus.

  3. well said, i often hear people say that despite being fat they eat only salad and exercise everyday and im afraid i find it hard to believe if they claim to have being doing this for ages. im cosidered obese, i wear a size 16 but since cutting dairy out of my diet ive lost weight but not sure if i fit into a size 14 yet. i put on weight having the kids and i admit i could do more regarding exercise.

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